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Calhoun, Ada (2012-09-14). "You May Call It Cheating, but We Don't". The New York Times. ISSN 0362-4331 . Retrieved 2022-06-27. Take a deep breath and start the conversation without any preconceived expectations or assumptions about how they’ll respond. Too vanilla? Suggest your partner get a sensual massage from someone else while you watch to test the waters. Psychologists have suggested a number of reasons why someone may be turned on by their partner having sex with someone else. Biology Smith, R. S. (1976). Voyeurism: A review of literature. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 5(6), 585–608. doi: 10.1007/BF01541221.Chapter 3 explores the way these deep-rooted fears and feelings can affect your life; causing all sorts of behaviors, like: addictions (alcoholism, drugs, gambling, or porn). Obsessive self-improvement (work, money, dieting/bodybuilding, or knowledge). Escapism (excessive video games, TV, Films, intellectualization). Grandiose fantasies, as well as occasional subhuman perceptions; an unstable sense of self. Underachieving, procrastinating, overachieving, perfectionism. Rosenberg, M. (1965). Society and the adolescent self-image. Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press. Richters, J., De Visser, R. O., Rissel, C. E., Grulich, A. E., & Smith, A. (2008). Demographic and psychosocial features of participants in bondage and discipline, “sadomasochism” or dominance and submission (BDSM): Data from a national survey. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 5(7), 1660–1668. doi: 10.1111/j.1743-6109.2008.00795.x.

Coleman, Julie (1 January 1999). Love, Sex, and Marriage: A Historical Thesaurus. Rodopi. ISBN 9042004339 . Retrieved 22 November 2016– via Google Books. Blanchard, R. (1991). Clinical observations and systematic studies of autogynephilia. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 17(4), 235–251. doi: 10.1080/00926239108404348. Trust and communication are also essential in these relationships, as the dominant partner must be able to trust their submissive partner to follow their commands. Hyde, Janet Shibley; Oliver, Mary Beth (2000), Travis, Cheryl Brown; White, Jacquelyn W. (eds.), "Gender differences in sexuality: Results from meta-analysis.", Sexuality, society, and feminism., Washington: American Psychological Association, pp.57–77, doi: 10.1037/10345-003, ISBN 978-1-55798-617-7 , retrieved 2022-10-22In Brazil and Portugal, the term used is " corno", meaning exactly "horned". The term is quite offensive, especially for men, and cornos are a common subject of jokes and anecdotes. Ley, D. (2009). Insatiable wives: Women who stray and the men who love them. Lanham, MD: Rowman & Littlefield. Joyal, C. C. (2015). Defining “normophilic” and “paraphilic” sexual fantasies in a population-based sample: On the importance of considering subgroups. Sexual Medicine, 3(4), 321–330. doi: 10.1002/sm2.96.

If you’re not quite ready to go looking for a bull, you can get off on listening to your partner talk about sex with someone else. Ethical non-monogamy encompasses a variety of relationship models that challenge traditional monogamous norms.

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Baker, R. R., & Bellis, M. A. (1993). Human sperm competition: Ejaculate manipulation by females and a function for the female orgasm. Animal Behavior, 46, 887–909. doi: 10.1007/978-0-387-28039-4_11. Brian Joseph Levy (2000). The Comic Text: Patterns and Images in the Old French Fabliaux. Rodopi. ISBN 9042004290. If you think you can handle more, send your partner out on a date where sex is on the menu and have them share all the details when they’re done. If you want it all Ley, David (2009). Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. Rowman & Littlefield. ISBN 978-1-4422-0031-9.

Rammstedt, B., & John, O. P. (2007). Measuring personality in one minute or less: A 10-item short version of the Big Five Inventory in English and German. Journal of Research in Personality, 41(1), 203–212. doi: 10.1016/j.jrp.2006.02.001. For some, humiliation ramps up the erotic intensity of the act by a bazillion. This can come from watching their partner with someone else, or some extra humiliation thrown in for good measure, like being laughed at or belittled by their partner and the bull. Even though there’s a chance they won’t be into it, don’t let that stop you from being completely honest.Savage, D. (2008). Savage love: Gentlemen first. The Stranger. Retrieved from http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=643679. Accessed August 6, 2016. Even if they’re not on board, sharing your desires can open the way for other exploration and kink. Have all the information Have them tell you about other people they fantasize about having sex with or the juicy details of past sexual encounters. If you want to take it a little further Sommer, Matthew Harvey (2002). Sex, Law, and Society in Late Imperial China. Stanford: Stanford University Press. p.218. ISBN 0-8047-4559-5 . Retrieved 2008-07-27.