Dozens of creative and inexpensive date ideas specifically for celebrating the season, birthdays, anniversaries, vacation dates and other special occasions! Men are often driven to achieve, accomplish, and succeed. Men like to hear they are doing well. They like to hear that their efforts are appreciated. I was listening to a Dr. John Gray interview recently, and he was elaborating on how important it is for a woman to show admiration to her man. Even when they are experiencing difficulties, sincere compliments go a long way. When a man hears his wife say something positive about him in front of neighbors or friends, he gets serious love unit deposits. When your partner meets your emotional needs, you feel love and romance. The love bank has a large positive balance. When your partner fails to meet your emotional needs, you feel insecure, frustrated, angry, and neglected. The love bank has large withdrawals and may even leave the balance in the negative. Hug and kiss me every morning while we’re still in bed. • Talk with me and tell me that you care about me while we’re having breakfast together. • Hug and kiss me before you leave for work. • Call me during the day to see how I’m doing and to tell me you care about me. • After work, call me before you leave for home, so that I can know when to expect you. • When you arrive home from work, give me a hug and kiss and spend a few minutes talking to me about how my day went (I’ll talk to you about how your day went too). • Help me with the dishes after dinner. • Hug and kiss me for at least five minutes when we go to bed at night and tell me that you care about me. • Bring me flowers once in a while as a surprise (be sure to include a card that expresses your care for me). • Remember my birthday, our anniversary, Christmas, Mother’s Day, and Valentine’s Day. Give me a card and gift that is sentimental, not practical. Learn how to shop for me. Under the heading “Affectionate Habits to Avoid,” she wrote: • Don’t tell me how attracted you are to my body when you want to express your affection. • Don’t touch my butt, breasts, or crotch when you are being affectionate with me (especially when we are washing the dishes together). Ted could understand what Paula meant in her list of “Affectionate Habits to Create.” And he was willing to try to learn to be more affectionate by practicing those behaviors until they became habits. But he was confused, and somewhat offended, with her entries in “Affectionate Habits to Avoid.” “Don’t you want me to tell you how sexy you look to me? You turn me on, and I’m just following my instincts,” he admitted. “I want to be attractive to you,” she replied. “But when we’re together, you seem to be interested only in my body. It makes me feel that you don’t care

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Priority 2: INTIMATE CONVERSATION (enjoys talking, its not what they talk about is important, it’s that they talk, the more intimate the better) When you and your spouse have each completed this questionnaire, you will have identified for each other your five most important emotional needs, and you will have ranked them according to the pleasure you receive when they are met. The needs ranked the highest deposit the most love units when they are met.

Only important to men that their partner remain attractive? I do what I can to take care of myself and feel and look good, but it goes both ways. The first step is to understand your partner better than anyone else does. This means getting to know what makes them happy and unhappy. Once you understand this, you can start working on meeting those needs in a way that won’t frustrate or anger them. How are you feeling? (Emotion & overall mood) What problems are you facing? How can I help you solve those problems? In a relationship, both parties have needs. His needs are the things that are important to him, and hers are the things that are important to her. His needs may include things like affection, support, and understanding. She may need reassurance, care, and love. Together, they can work out a compromise that meets their individual needs.

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Only the husbands income should be used in the needs budget. The wants budget can be met with the wife’s income. The first thing to understand is that a man’s needs are typically more physical. This means he’s primarily concerned with his well-being and wants what he thinks will make him happy. He may also place a high value on independence and self-sufficiency, which can make him frustrated or abandoned if these needs aren’t met. Her Needs

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Cards on Birthday (17 December), Relationship (18th June), Anniversary (21 December), Valentine’s day (14th February) Other than 15 hours for undivided attention to the wife, you have to budget additional 15 hours per week to a quality family time.*(Consider your total time each week. You have 168 hours (24 hours a day, 7 days a week). For 8 hours of sleep each night (don’t risk your health), take 56 hours away, leaving 112 hours. If you estimate the time it takes to get ready for work in the morning and ready for bed at night to take another 12 hours, that leaves 100 hours. Your job, including getting there and returning home again, should not take more than 50 hours a week (if you work more than that, you cannot achieve your most important objectives in life). Assign the remaining tasks. Both partners agree to who will do what and when they are to be completed. spirit bond. It’s a tragic misperception for her to think that her husband is not right for her based on a comparison of feelings at a moment in time. If he were to lay the groundwork with affection, their bond would be restored and the affair would be seen for what it really is—a misguided effort to have an important emotional need met. As I mentioned earlier, just as men want their wife’s sexual response to be spontaneous, women prefer their husband’s affection to be spontaneous. But when we try to develop new behavior, it seems contrived and unnatural. At first, efforts to be affectionate may not be very convincing and, as a result, may not have the effect that spontaneous affection does. But with practice, the affectionate behavior eventually conveys accurately the feeling of care that a husband has for his wife. That, in turn, creates the environment necessary for a more spontaneous sexual response from her. A woman’s need for affection is one of her deepest emotional needs. But all that I’ve said here will prove of little value if a wife fails to understand that her husband has an equally deep need for sex. In the next chapter I’ll confront the woman in an effort to explain why, for men, sex is not just one of several ways to end a lovely evening. To the typical man, sex is like air or water. He can’t do without it very well. If a wife fails to understand the power of the male sex appetite, she will wind up having a husband who’s tense and frustrated at best. At worst, someone else may step forward to meet his need and, tragically enough, that happens all too often in our society. But it can all be avoided if husbands learn to be more affectionate and wives respond with more eagerness to make love. As Harley’s First Law of Marriage says: When it comes to sex and affection, you can’t have one without the other. Questions for Him 1. On a scale of one to ten, with ten being “very affectionate,” how affectionate are you toward your wife? How would she rate you? 2. In what specific ways do you show your wife affection? 3. Would you be willing to have her coach you in how to show her more In your comment, you are outraged that I write that women want a man that can provide or at least participate in the support of the family. Really? That is supposed to be vapid and misinformed? Are you really suggesting that women want to be married to deadbeats that cannot provide any financial resources to the family?