This understanding was the key to my beginning to recover my own sense of identity, apart from my mother. This book does the opposite: it gives us overt permission, and even encouragement, to trust our intuition which in turn will keep us safe. I love that it includes extremely practical steps to help us be happy for no reason too, rather than just airy fairy talk.

Campbell explores new science behind narcissism and offers understanding in treating and dealing with narcissists, from how society shapes them to identifying narcissists in your own relationships. Dear survivor of narcissistic abuse, I genuinely care about you, and while healing isn't as simple as reading a book, I hope that my work will make a positive difference in your life. This book uses ongoing metaphorical references to The Wizard of OZ, providing readers with memorable tools they can use to identify a narcissist and heal from the effects of their specific destructive behaviors. This book is for those who have suffered a narcissistic childhood and are looking to gain a deeper understanding of what they went through, as well as find some common ground from someone who's also been there, and knows how the child inside still hurts from the treatment they received from their mother.So, while she’s busy making herself feel important by criticizing or manipulating you, she can’t fathom that she’s causing you pain.

My sister suffered from self-sabotage all her adult life and it literally destroyed her quality of life. Whether the kids are currently dealing with the NPD mom, she was recently diagnosed or they are no longer in contact, this book is an easy read and it’s redundancies are helpful to help kids with loyalty binds make sense of the abuse they have endured. But if you want to start building a happier, more meaningful life for yourself, there’s something crucial you must come to terms with first: you are not the reason your mother behaves hurtfully.She claims that a simple sentence based on a rationally and emotionally processed experience can be more effective than thousands of academic papers. I was so used to being invalidated and gaslighted that I’d doubt myself constantly ( “are they really dysfunctional?

When it comes to self-care, many self-help books do not go into as much detail as How to Do the Work does. is an essential guide to recovery for women with selfish, emotionally abusive, and toxic mothers—designed to help daughters reclaim their lives.The author does this through analyzing the parent's behaviors as well as assessing your attitude toward your parent and how that attitude may have impacted your life to date. This innovative book suggests that being raised by a narcissist is actually the emotional equivalent to be raised by an alcoholic. However marginalized from the mainstream of mother-daughter relationships you may have felt before this, you are no longer alone on the road to recovery. When Janice got angry and confronted her mom, she was told that she was overreacting and that her mom could do whatever she wanted since the house was hers. Our families usually did look good to outsiders, but though we sensed something was wrong, we were told that really "it is nothing.