Where do I even begin! Eighteen years and three weeks ago, I started writing Baggage Reclaim. I never imagined what it would lead to. All I’d set out to do was help at least *one* person avoid what I’d been through or to navigate their way out of an unhealthy situation. I wound up doing so much more. Maurice Mcleod, a writer and local councillor, found that his inability to say “no” caused him serious problems when he went freelance about a decade ago. He took on so many projects and agreed to do so many favours that, he says, he was living with “a constant feeling of unease and panic. Every time the phone rang, I’d think: ‘Oh my God, who’s that, what haven’t I done?’ It was this constant feeling of letting people down.” He took on so much unpaid work that he had to refuse work that was paid, got into debt, and realised the only way out was to just say “no”. Later, I found myself feeling absolutely terrible about having said yes and I wished that I had just had the guts to say no from the beginning. And if you don’t have any good excuses, you then have to decide if you are going to tell the truth or come up with a lie. Don’t lie. Lying will most likely lead to guilt—and remember, this is what you are trying to avoid feeling.

If, like me, you’re having trouble saying no, this may help. Saying No Doesn’t Mean You’re a Bad Person The Joy of Saying No will help you identify your people-pleasing style and habits. A six-step framework then teaches you how to discover the healing and transformative power of no to It’s okay to make mistakes—nobody is perfect, and everybody does things that they regret; this is what makes us human. Zeg jij vaak nee? Aan de hand van een simpel stappenplan legt Natalie Lue je uit hoe je kan stoppen met pleasen en zo dichterbij je authentieke zelf te komen. Hoe vaak zeg jij 'ja', terwijl je 'nee' wilt zeggen? Ga je hierbij aan jezelf voorbij? Doorbreek je patronen en stop met pleasen en andere boven jezelf te stellen. Kies voor een betere relatie met jezelf en je omgeving. Hierdoor ervaar je ongetwijfeld meer geluk in je leven. Through profiles of others and candid anecdotes from her own life, Lue explains the various styles of and remedies to people pleasing (i.e., ignoring one’s own needs, wants, feelings, and opinions). She teaches readers how to say No when they’ve always automatically and resentfully said Yes. And, through vivid metaphors, she explains the mind-body connection of stress with greater relatability than can be found in similar works written by experts.Delivery with Standard Australia Post usually happens within 2-10 business days from time of dispatch. Please be aware that the delivery time frame may vary according to the area of delivery and due to various reasons, the delivery may take longer than the original estimated timeframe. Go on, try saying you’re too busy for a change. Never mind ‘yes, I can’ – sometimes, the very best answer is ‘no, I damn well can’t!’ Practice saying no. Imagine a scenario and then practice saying no either by yourself or with a friend. This will get you feeling a lot more comfortable with saying no.

If you have also decided that it’s worth it to you, and want to learn to say no, try these simple yet effective tips for doing so with confidence. Helpful Tips for Saying No What makes a person great is not their looks or achievements, but their willingness to love others, be humble, and grow as a person. Don’t say, “I’ll think about it” if you don’t want to do it. This will just prolong the situation and make you feel even more stressed. But sadly, we hold onto our childhood beliefs and we continue to associate no with being dislikeable, bad-mannered, unkind, or selfish. We worry that if we say no, we will feel humiliated, guilty, or ashamed, and will end up being alone, rejected, or abandoned. Knowing Your ValueI came across a quote from Natalie Lue in an NPR article last year and it was so profound, I knew I wanted to read this book as soon as it came out. When patients struggle to say no to social arrangements, she says: “Sometimes that can come from a core belief of feeling, deep down, that they’re unlikable.” The roots of these beliefs are frequently buried in our past. “I often meet adults who had difficult experiences in childhood, where they felt on the outside of a social group or experienced a trauma, and they don’t want to say no due to a fear of being on the outside, that people will discover them as unlikable in some way. That can lead to this perpetual need to say yes or to keep others happy.” No is not a dirty word. Follow author Natalie Lue’s six-step plan to find your no so you can create healthier boundaries and reconnect with your values and authentic self. The Joy Of Saying No" sera un excelente libro para aquellas personas que tienden a complacer mucho a los demas, cada uno con sus diferentes razones. Aunque no soy la audiencia objetivo, elegi leer este libro por el hecho de que sentia curiosidad acerca de que piensan las personas complacientes a las que les cuesta decir que no.