This chapter rests on stories appearing across three books that the author has written on gay men's life stories and which focus on age and ageing. The first (Robinson, 2008) concerned three generations of Australian gay men, aged 22–79, and how changing social norms affected the ease with which they could be public about their sexuality. The second considered how age and ageing affected gay men's relationships (Robinson, 2013). Based on material from an international sample of men aged 20–87, it examined long-term relationships, fatherhood, various lived experiences of single men and generational differences regarding gay marriage. The third book (Robinson, 2017) looked at gay men's working lives from the perspective of three generations of gay men from the same international sample, as well as their views and experiences on retirement from paid work and on old age/later life. For straight men, the best bulwark against loneliness is marriage. Compared to them, many more gays (an estimated 40–60 percent) are single. The option for gay men to marry is new, and far from universal. Will this enhance the chances that life will be more satisfying in the sexual area life? With too little data, it’s too early to tell.

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