You'll be begging your wife to play with your arse by the time I'm done with you." He said to me with a laugh.

I'm a straight guy and have never had any form of sexual experience with a guy until a couple of months ago. Some guys end up giving brojobs to one another because they are confined in the same space together. This is a very common experience in the military. There was about to be a gay sex act in the room next to me? I thought, As I was wanking to gay stories?! My friend and I were very close at the time, and I valued that friendship much more than any sexual experience. I didn’t want one stupid night to mess up our friendship. I was perfectly willing to pretend it never happened because I knew that’s what he wanted (and part of me wanted that too). Without saying a word, I pressed a second finger at the rim of my arse. It felt like I was stretching myself open and when my finger finally slipped it I let out a loud gasp.I started to let out little gasps, then my arsehole felt like it had loosened and was accepting my finger easier. I don’t remember if any words were exchanged, but it was definitely on from that point. We only fooled around – mainly oral with him being the receiver. He tried to go for more, but he was too drunk to find any lube. Finally we passed out on a blanket on the floor. The best thing you can do, if you haven't done so already, is to find yourself a boyfriend. Why? Because generally speaking, if you're pining over straight guy friends it's almost always because you're lonely and don't have anyone in your life. You want someone who you can love, and who can love you in return.

I didn't even attempt to move my head, instead I just let this young man use my mouth like the slut I had become for him.In fact the minute you mention that word, the party is over. But if using that term can be avoided, swapping oral is completely OK. Since it was the first time you've both seen each other since it happened, it was inevitable that it'd be awkward. It's like a bond of trust that's been broken and needs to be rebuilt. He's afraid that if he drinks around you that it's going to happen again. I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. Why? Well, you were insanely drunk and so was he. Hopefully, you wouldn't have done anything with him were you sober, but since your inhibitions were lowered... Plus, he has an equal amount of responsibility in what happened. He might have been drunk as well, but it isn't like you told him to pull down his pants, and it wasn't like he was saying no - after all, he wanted to go even further than you let him.

I can't answer this question. I can point to the end of our friendship and say that there were specific situations that caused us to get into an argument and end things. But I'll never know for sure what, if any, impact the sexual encounter 1.5 years earlier had on our friendship ending. I recognize that part of the “flavor” is psychologically based. But in the final analysis, the end result is a yummier load. Well, at least for me. Don’t ever be ashamed that you are into heterosexual men getting it on with each other. Let’s be real – it’s totally hot. Plus, there’s something cool about watching straight guys explore one another. After the first time it, we found ourselves regularly draining each other out when nobody was around. Sometimes it even happened just before he was about to hang with his girlfriend. We’ve talked on the phone and exchanged text messages a few times over the past few days, but still haven’t met face-to-face since this all happened. I do have plans to go hang out with him in a couple of days.There are only 3 reasons I can think of for you to talk about this with him. Otherwise, just keep quiet. I know that this might sound harsh, maybe even too harsh. But really, I know exactly what you're feeling. I don't know many gay men (myself included) who hasn't developed a crush or had feelings for a straight guy - including straight friends. It happens all too frequently, but there is just one important thing to remember...

I decided to confide in a mutual straight friend (we’ll call him "Doug") because I felt like I needed to talk to somebody I trusted and who was familiar with Jeff. I thought I could trust Doug not say anything, and he didn’t for about 6 months. Then one day Doug and Jeff got into a heated argument, and Doug brought up what I had told him about Jeff. Doug did this just to be hurtful to Jeff, but of course it had serious implications for me as well. Do you think she will understand that this was just a physical act that occurred in your intoxicated state and in no way reflects on your sexual preference? I’ve told you that I don’t think this makes you gay or even bi, but it’s not like you can just print off this post and show it to your girlfriend as proof. I think that most straight people have a problem understanding situations like this because they identify so strongly with being straight. So until they find themselves in a similar situation, they don’t see how it can be possible for a straight person to have a sexual experience with a person of the same sex and not be gay or at least bisexual. This is why you’re having such a hard time dealing with the whole experience, and it’s very likely that your girlfriend would have a problem with it for the same reasons. I hope that you are able to come to terms with this situation, realize why it happened, and realize that it doesn’t change anything about you or your orientation. I think it would be much harder for your girlfriend to come to terms with the situation because she’s not the one it happened to.

I’ll never forget it. He fired up some 420 and started toking. Before I knew it, we were swapping head up against the trunk of a Chevy Impala. Not too long ago, a scientific study was released that showed men who identified as straight bonded better with other guys when compared to women. I feel like I want to text him to tell him how I'm feeling but I wonder whether it is just best left alone and hope that it's not awkward the next time I see him, whenever that may be. Speaking of scientific studies, an important one came out in 2016 that explored the concept of bud sex ( see link). The research centered on heterosexual men who live in rural America. Your friend probably remembers at least some part of what happened that night. He may be having some of the same thoughts and feelings that you are currently having. He may be pretending not to remember anything because he thinks that would be the easiest way for you to handle the situation.