Rogers asserts that it’s not enough for a counselor to feel that they are congruent and expressing unconditional positive regard and empathic understanding. Rogers quotes two authors – Abraham Maslow and Ashley Montagu – as the “solitary voices” of protest against the widely accepted notion that “man is irrational, unsocialized, destructive of others and self. However, Roger's personality theory added that people in their daily lives need an environment with empathy, acceptance and genuineness to grow. Presenting the non-directive and related points of view in counselling and therapy, this book defines the progress recently made in the development of the techniques and basic philosophy of counselling.

If a refund or reimbursement is payable to you, we will transfer the money using the same method originally used by you to pay for your purchase.However, during his practice, Rogers discovered something so “foreign to our present culture” that even he was aware that it would probably never be accepted by the mainstream practice. As the therapy progresses, Rogers argues, the individual will more and more come to feel that he sets his own standards to live by, that he determines his own values, and that he has the ability to choose his own direction in life. Rogers was a supporter of self-actualization, which means every person has the ability to find the best solutions for himself and the ability to make appropriate modifications in his everyday life. If the psychologist-client relationship was to rest on truth, he felt, it had to include the moods and feelings of the practitioner. It took me a while to figure out that clearly, I didn't trust my own experience enough yet (step no.

They were usually very concerned with what others thought of them and what they ought to be doing in given situations. For personal growth, I believe a better question you should ask yourself is: “Which potentialities within me do I most wish to spend my limited time cultivating, developing, and actualizing in this world? This means, among other things, not acting, listening attentively, refrain from judging, being as honest as possible; or, in a sentence, it means being yourself and letting the others be themselves as well. Rogers gives the example of a teacher who is introverted but decides to become extroverted in her instructions. It involves the therapist’s genuine willingness for the client to be whatever feeling is going on in him at that moment,––fear, confusion, pain, pride, anger, hatred, love, courage, or awe.A person with an increased level of self-worth values himself and can be gracious while getting a compliment. Emotional acceptance, acceptance of others, and acceptance as a tool to eliminate the incessant need to fix things. With the help of some caring others, I have decided effectively to invest my time in exploring my inner child.