I am normally known as a calm, peaceful and including man but on the inside I may become seriously pissed off. I can be dominant socially, but is clearly submissive sexually. I am introvert by nature, but can be very offensive in socia settings. These are very complex phenomena, indeed! Countless other examples could be given. Cross-gender feelings exist on a spectrum, but they are only primarily sexual in nature in male cross-dressers, including those for whom cross-dressing has gradually evolved into middle age transexuality. However, when psychologists use the term late onset transexuality, they are generally referring to those who develop a cross-gender identity In adolescence or early adulthood, not those who feel male until their 40s or 50s. We can put a fancy label on it (autogynephilia) but really where does this come from? In your opinion, what do you think causes this?" Since all of the trans people I know trace their gender feelings to before puberty, it would be far too simplistic to try and reduce feelings of gender incongruence to sexual dysfunction. Blanchard reducing gender identity to misdirected sexuality I have been quite successful in my career . People really value my opinion. I believe I have high functioning autism.

His arguments align with the debate on how to distinguish Aspberger from giftedness.In other words: Talented, intelligent, and focused kids are diagnosed as having Asperger, as they thrive in their own company and do not share their doctors' enthusiasm for rough and tumble play.

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Today we know very well that being trans isn't a sexually fueledmental illness, however we still need to understand how the nature of wanting to be the other sex encompasses elements of sexual energy. One might wonder, what if someone has no talent whatsoever? How can they engage in a fulfilling form of ‘escapism’? Basically, I buy into Anne Lawrence’s idea that my late-onset transsexualism is a falling in love with myself as a woman – the crossdreamer equivalent of a hetero falling in love with an external woman. However, if this is the case, the whole obsessive/dreamy/giddy love aspect should wear off. It’s human nature that any strong feeling – the giddiness of initial love, for example – wears off, and is replaced with a more down to earth feeling. As you can imagine, this is not an easy step to take, and, at that stage, one would definitely classify that crossdreaming person as much more than ‘merely a crossdresser’. It means that they want to start reshaping their physical bodies to become aligned to their image as women. But, of course, that has consequences which are irreversible — to a degree.

Richard Dawkins find it hard to grasp the difference between gender and biological sex, reducing gender identity to a matter of procreation in the process. No wonder he is loved by transphobic TERFs (trans-exclusionary radical feminists). When you look a little closer, however, it becomes apparent that they do not. It is just that they have a very old fashioned view about gay men, believing them to be effeminate "inverts". Surgery makes them women, and then their abominable attraction to men becomes all right. If you have a low level of aggression, finding peace in the traditional woman's role should be easier than living up to the hyperactive standards of modern men. This is in the mirror term of Ray Blanchard's concept of "autogynephilia", where male to female crossdreamers and transgender women who are attracted to women are believed to be suffering from some kind of "erotic target location error". They are, according to this theory, attracted to their "inner woman" as opposed to real women "out there". Disappear: the end goal of my sexual orientation had been achieved and now I’d just focus on people?But we have to keep in mind that such incongruence comes in different colors and intensities. Some end up identifying completely with "the other gender" (relative to the one assigned to them by society at birth), while others simple feel the need to express sides of themselves that others try to deny them, because this is not what "real boys" and "real girls" should feel or do. My answer is ‘no’… (another day, I’ll explain the question.) The point I want to make is that although I don’t want to eliminate the feelings I have, I wish I could find the perfect lifestyle/ method to reduce them. My ultimate goal would be to experience the positive aspects of a crossgender nature…but not feel the loss and the pain. How can I do that? There are people assigned female at birth who dream about being a man, though. They are all some shade of trans or nonbinary, and their dreams are most likely an expression of some kind of transgender identity. I am not a doctor not a psychologist but I love to research a lot on my "condition". I can also say with conviction that my father has a lot of symptoms of high functioning Asperger and my grandmother too had some of them. I think that it has been handed down to me and the three of us differ a lot in someways and are similar in many ways. However I know that my father is not a crossdreamer/crossdresser so it will be interesting to know your opinion as to how the genes mutated to give me this personality.

For those of you who do not know Lady Alexia: She has been an active participant of the TG scene for a long time, and has made some great contributions to the crossdreamer community. She has her own blog here: Crossdreaming is a more neutral term, and, as such, I see that it might have some adoption — at least in the transgendered community, and maybe in the academic world as well in the near future. Basically it states that some individuals are born with a sensation of arousal when picturing themselves as women, and this — just like homosexuality and transgenderism — is not a ‘mental condition’ that can be ‘cured’. So far, so good, this sounds familiar for those who have read Blanchard.As I learn more about myself, I feel sad that sometimes people find it difficult to understand my behavior, which may get a little variable and which makes me an unpredictable person.Even my crossdressing/dreaming also waxes and wanes. Most of the time I cannot stop myself from for example having mood swings. I can talk whole day ;)