Only allow your sub to pleasure themselves with your permission," Pfeuffer says. "If rules are broken, that permission is revoked." This means you hold the power over whether they experience pleasure or not; their pleasure is a gift you’re allowing them to enjoy in return for good behavior. 18. Have them run errands while wearing vibrating panties A person when naked, in the presence of another impeccably dressed, feels humiliated. It’s a subtle form of humiliation without a word. Don’t be with some “charity” submissive, they don’t want to be with charity Dom. In addition to the session being terrible for you. The horny, the desire are necessary for a session. Before the session, in conversations, it is good to make it clear that BDSM involves risks. In some techniques more, and in others less. Find out if they have health insurance. Sounds like bullshit, but it can help you in an emergency. A Slave Auction at Sanctuary (My Experience: Lessons on Safe Words, Floggers, Sensations & Aftercare)

Force your sub to agree to keep their pretty little mouth shut. You can go a step further by not allowing your submissive to speak while in a public place without asking permission first. 4. Denying your sub an event they’re looking forward to This is a form of “restrictive discipline,” much like giving your sub a “time out” in the corner. If they break the rules, take away something they enjoy as punishment. This could be access to the show they want to watch, their cell phone, or even an orgasm. 22. Writing lines A practical study is much more beneficial than a theoretical study. You’ll see that there are a lot of boring people who know a lot of theory, but don’t know how to tie a shoelace on their sneakers. Run away from the bad-mouthers from behind, when you turn around, you’ll be the victim. I speak from experience. I was a victim of it. Have your sub sit in the shower or bathtub and pee on them. This kind of humiliation play can get messy, so you might want to do it in the nude. 21. Take away something they like

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Tell your sub to get on all fours and act as a stool for you to rest your feet. Dive into a good book and force them to stay still until you’re good and ready to let them get up. 15. Give them a time-out Put them over your knee and show them what happens to naughty people who break the rules. Just remember to aim for the fleshy parts of the body, such as the butt cheeks and upper thighs. Refuse to let your partner pleasure you and make them beg for a taste," Saynt suggests. "Come within a few inches of their mouth, watch their tongue slip out and get just close enough but not quite there. Make your body their prize and make the longing for it the punishment.” 11. Grab the ice If your sub breaks the rules, write what they did wrong on their body in permanent marker. Make them wear it around all day so they don’t forget how naughty they were. 20. Golden shower

In case of more than one subs during a session, it’s nice to create a competition between them. You are the prize.

Is your sub being a little brat? “Put your submissive in the corner for a time-out,” Pfeuffer says. “Being ‘grounded’ for a little while can be incredibly effective” in getting them to follow your rules next time. 16. Wax-play When you hear the word “punishment,” sex probably isn't the first thing that comes to mind. But in BDSM—an umbrella term that encompasses bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism, and masochism—punishment can be a major component of sex. And a pleasurable one, at that.