Rudkin feels you might want to make a concession while dating. ‘Alternate wearing women’s and men’s pants,’ she says. ‘And, remember, this is only one tiny part of you and who you are as a person. Focus on the many other things you have to offer within a relationship. Working out together will not only make both of you physically fit but it also works wonders on a person's body image and self esteem. Use it as an opportunity to spend time together with dates at the gym, and soon enough, you'll notice your wife feeling much more confident in the bedroom. Related: Summer Date Ideas Whether It's Your 1st or 500th Date → Yes," he said. "She tried on a whole bunch of stuff for me - fancy lacy stuff, and stringy things, and see-through things...." Perhaps the most obvious thing that you may look down upon is merely asking your wife to wear lingerie. Easy, right? She looked soooo good in all those things," he said, "and I wanted to buy them for you. But she asked about your body type and we agreed that it just wouldn't be the same on you."

One of the things that might make your lady not feel sexy is if she does not feel you are proud of her. Displaying that you take pride in having her as your spouse in public can turn things around. If you decide to buy her lingerie, just make sure you get it in her favorite color and size. Otherwise, you could create issues by getting her something that shows you don't listen to her. Instead, you could buy yourself a sexy roleplay costume and act out one of her fantasies. Related: Introducing Role Play in the Bedroom →I've been a Domme for the last two years and studying D/s for about four and half. My current partner is more vanilla but also exploring himself but my last partner was a full blown asexual sub with a foot fetish and pet tendencies. To get started working out together, take the pressure off by simply asking your wife to support you in your workout journey. Of course, a cute pair of joggers or sports bra always sweetens the deal—just saying! The wife was skeptical. Kneeling on the floor, surrounded by scraps of paper and ribbon and empty cardboard boxes, she turned the garment inside out and looked at its label. She pretended for some time to be absorbed in this. The husband assumed she was memorizing the washing instructions. In fact, she was trying to control her emotions. She was somewhere between bursting into tears (especially since the shaper was size XL) and having a full-blown, toddler-style tantrum.

If you realize that your spouse is having trouble loving and seeing herself as a sexy woman, you should go the extra mile to correct this problem. We chatted briefly about how horny it was to be nude on the beach and he made no secret that he was enjoying Dawns body, I thanked him for the compliment and he said to come over later and he would show me some photos of his wife. A little while later I wandered over to his towel and he offered for me to sit and I realised why he had chosen that spot, as he was looking directly between Dawns luscious thighs to her smooth pussy. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, requiring two people in it for the long run. The period of courtship is exciting for the couple, and some people think that the romance will carry into their marriage without any extra effort. When I finally confessed, she was cool about it. I can easily get more aroused wearing women’s undies and therefore sex was better for her as well as me.

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The only thing better than being told you look sexy is feeling like you are the most beautiful woman alive. As much as words can be powerful and affirming, they won’t do much if your lady doesn’t believe it. Dr Angharad Rudkin comments: ‘There will be other girls like your last girlfriend, who was accepting when you told her. Wearing women’s underwear may make you feel more secure, as you have a secret no one knows about that can make you feel more in control of life.’ My wife of 26 years (college sweethearts) has me right where she wants me and we both know it. She’s always had what she calls a “wild streak” deep down and nobody else knows but me. She’s very modest, professional and respected in our public life. If it’s simply the case that wearing women’s undies makes you horny, you should just celebrate it. Your fetish doesn’t harm anyone, so it probably won’t be as big an issue to a future partner as it feels to you.’ If you want your wife to slip into sexy lingerie for a flirtatious romp, it is your responsibility as her husband to make her feel loved and sexy. The lingerie will come—we promise!