Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is not the kind of book one necessarily goes out of their way to read for entertainment or enjoyment. in her beautiful world where you are in an abusive relationship but have excellent counselors and unusually strong support systems you may be able to please the perfectionist way that she and her therapist lay out responding to an abuser’s abuse.

She has delivered a manual on living in the tension of pain and promise that feels like the exhale we have been waiting to release. Nevertheless, a glance at the chapter titles instantly shows the reader what they can expect to learn from this book.

I know this will not be popular but it has Some dangerous advice and some trite unrealistic solutions that sadly she and evidently her therapist who chimes in throughout falls into the very traps it seems to warn against… it’s mixed in with some good thoughts but as an abuse survivor I am very concerned with a few things in particular…. Instead, Terkeurst comes across like a therapist for whatever the reader is going through in their relationships. Additionally, despite her experience, Terkeurst does not talk about people, spouses, or those who hurt her in a disrespectful way. Seek therapeutic guidance from reputable sources, like Lysa’s counselor Jim Cress, to support boundary establishment and maintenance. All of us say or do things that stand in opposition to qualities we would like to be true of ourselves, but that is because God is the only one who is the embodiment of any good and pure characteristic.

A biblical, well-written, strong guide to sift through setting boundaries in the most excruciating of circumstances. and said that when someone violates her boundaries, she can act "in opposite ways of the woman I really am.But you're beginning to realize that if the other person doesn't want to change what's broken in the relationship, you can't change it on your own. Despite the book seemingly being born out of her trauma, Terkeurst does not focus on her situation; she does not discuss any overly personal details, and she avoids painting anyone in a bad light.

Many times while reading this book I felt like the author was speaking directly to me and was able to express in words exactly how I was feeling.Number-one New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst helps readers stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing them biblical ways to set boundaries--and, when necessary, say goodbye--without losing the best of who they are.

The book consists of twelve chapters, each covering a nuanced thought or concern in establishing boundaries with the people one loves. Boundaries” seems to be a hot button issue lately in modern psychology, so I was delighted to see Lysa appropriately tackle this through the lens of Scripture. It’s something many of us find extremely uncomfortable talking about but it’s what so many of us desperately need to actually win in our relationships. Probably the best book on boundaries and how to both accurately verbalize and live into them I have read. I can’t recommend this book highly enough for those who need help navigating difficult relationships and overcoming people pleasing.She provided many helpful analogies for why this is good practice, such as the fact that you wouldn't give just anyone the keys to your home and if people who you did trust to have the keys were using them in a way that was not intended, you would take them away. By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file. Boundaries help us say what needs to be said, do what needs to be done, and establish what is and isn’t acceptable. I often see women post comments to Lysa's posts on Facebook expressing gratitude that her writing touches upon their own direct experiences. What stood out to me is how to set boundaries and be confident it is a godly/Biblical choice instead of fumbling emotionally and mentally because of trying to please everyone in my life.