the writing does a great job of portraying emotions and grief, and the progressions of those things as the story goes on. Well I knew I wasn't reading THE GREAT GATSBY but I still expected more of a send-off than wet panties. Iris made it known that she struggled with her daughter's sexuality and this has a lasting impact on Maggie's life.

There’s something in the journey here that made me want to keep turning the pages - I also wanted to know about Maggie’s mother’s lovers.A story of good but difficult characters and the openhearted people who love them, All My Mother’s Lovers is a compassionate and insightful work. all of the lovers were equally interesting to read about, and they provided an additional sense of suspense and another layer to uncover. i found the themes shallow and unsatisfactory— the author wants to talk about race, gender, politics, and sexuality but the way it's done here grated me. Unfolding over the course of nine days, and written with enormous heart, All My Mother’s Lovers is a meditation on the universality and particularity of family ties, grief, and generational divides, as well as a tender and biting portrait of sex, gender, and identity. I only have a little bit of my day to listen (versus no time to read), and with the nature of this particular plot (daughter of deceased mother finds letters to four strangers to be sent if she dies - there by creating a journey for the daughter to deliver these letters) made things a little repetitive.

All My Mother’s Lovers is an intimate, complex family portrait that follows the messy life of one queer woman who comes to understand that all relationships are untidy; that’s part of what makes them memorable. Maggie's need to reduce the act of making love in the opening line of the book to "being eaten out" .What unfolds thereafter is a pleasant journey into grief and it’s aftermath, alongside the journey of accepting one’s identity within the lgbtqia+ spectrum. At the heart of it is an exploration of grief (not good on the soul to read two books on grieving one after the after!

She’s wasted a lot but you never really feel empathy for her, you must feel like, sheesh, what a jerk. Overwhelmed by her grief and frustrated with her family, Maggie decides to escape the shiva and hand-deliver her mother’s letters. This was a decent enough book, though it did feel a bit preachy at times as though we had to be sure of HOW liberal the author and every character is.But what sets *Mother's Lovers* (I love the rhyme in the title) apart is how definitively modern it is. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. This is why I quit hanging out in queer spaces-too many Maggies (not all of them women, not all of them millenials. But, whether communicating with our queer elders or with elders we would never consider part of the queer community, it is important to understand that the things we hold most important are human, and though the words we use to describe experiences may change, there is nevertheless continuity of human experience from one generation to the next.