Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

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Consider having compassion for whatever caused the original route of shame and chaos in their heart that then drove them to try to act and react in such unhealthy ways. Have compassion because I don’t have life so figured out that I never act and react in unhealthy ways. The worst part of dysfunction in relationships is the feeling of hopelessness and powerlessness that too many of us have been swirling in for years.

Boundaries aren’t going to fix the other person. But they are going to help you stay fixed on what is good, acceptable, and what you need to stay healthy and safe. Lysa’s book reminded me of my college years when I would write papers for classes, be way below the word count, and fill them with fluff to meet the word count minimum. Lysa’s book would have been better as a blog post, not an entire book. Join #1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst as she helps you stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing you biblical ways to set boundaries—and, when necessary, say goodbye—without losing the best of who you are. In conflict, do you often have to take responsibility for everything while they resist taking responsibility? there are two types of triggers: internal and external. A trigger is a stimulation caused either by an internal thought or an external action from someone else.In my opinion, the book could've been much stronger if the author had taken more time with the book. It feels rushed in many ways, including the fact that she's admittedly still dealing with a lot of the things that she's speaking as an expert on. Corinthians 16:13-14 be on guard, stand firm in your faith, be courageous, be strong, and do everything in love.

Take an honest look at your current dysfunctions . Proverbs 20:5 the purposes of a persons heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out. You can’t let other peoples fractured thinking affect you to the point where you get your thinking out of alignment with God‘s truth. (Same with feelings and actions) Have any of these statements contributed to you giving up on setting boundaries with certain people:Shift your focus to what you can control. Your environment, what you are or are not willing to tolerate, what you do or do not have to give. It’s freeing to state for yourself who you really are rather than trying to defend yourself against the judgment of others. It is possible to end a relationship, be honest about what wasn’t healthy, and still celebrate what was good. the longer a destructive relationship stays in turmoil and unhealth, the greater the risk will be for bitterness to creep in.

It’s my responsibility not to let another’s personal actions and expectations wear me down to the worst version of myself.” When people aren’t respectful of your limits, you can set boundaries or you can pay the consequences. The boundary you see as a protection to keep the relationship healthy, they will see as a personal rejection.

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Relationships often die not because of conversations that were had but rather conversations that were needed, but never had. Unhealed grief will spill, or sometimes even spew onto other people, like our kids, family members, and friends, and can even contribute to Long Term mental health issues. Number-one New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst helps readers stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing them biblical ways to set boundaries--and, when necessary, say goodbye--without losing the best of who they are. If you find yourself so grateful for the smallest common courtesy, you are hanging your hope on nothing but air. Save yourself 6 months and go read Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. Now THAT is an excellent, thought-provoking book on boundaries.