Swing with Me : Our First Time Swinging Experience

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After a morning of topless photos on the beach, we invited a friend to our room for a threesome. She had suggestively asked to help celebrate my husband’s birthday, and he was more than happy to unwrap this gift. Her advice to those considering the lifestyle:“For couples who are considering it, we suggest that you better have a really good relationship starting out because it doesn’t fix broken relationships, it only breaks them up faster. Also, you need to have conversations with your spouse or partner before you go into it. Know your rules and limits before you get into a situation because you can’t really get upset with your partner if you didn’t talk about.” Jody was introduced to swinging five years ago and is currently single. She loves her work as a sex coach and says if it weren’t for swinging, she wouldn’t be where she is now.

My husband and I kept things quiet as well, reinforcing our love for each other with a sunset blowjob on the balcony. Her advice to those considering swinging:“Don’t feel pressure. Most people who are new to swinging don’t actually have sex. They like to watch. In a swingers club, no really does mean no. Many times, I’ve had men or women approach me and if I don’t feel like it, I just say no. You can explore any fantasy you have at a swingers club. I would suggest for first timers to try a larger club where there are lots of people. People who go to swingers clubs are normal people who you would never guess in a million years are swingers. About 90 percent of people who swing are married with kids and just want to try walking on the wild side together.” Jessica Drake, an adult superstar and certified sex educator, has been swinging since before she was in the adult industry. I awoke to the glowing, golden hues of a Tahitian sunrise in the best way possible: with my husband’s face buried between my thighs. Like me, his libido was running at full capacity ever since boarding the Luxury Lifestyle Vacations (LLV) cruise through French Polynesia the night prior, and the moment I was awake, we needed to release that pent-up energy. Consensual sexual activities between adults do not harm the people taking part in them, nor will they impact anyone else who isn’t involved. Giving and receiving pleasure is a beautiful feeling. But, of course, to each their own. Everyone I spoke with stressed that newbies should go in with low expectations. For example, try watching your partner dance and make out with someone else. "Dancing can be foreplay," says Kenzie. "We can grind a little bit on the dance floor to make that connection" before taking it to a play space. It’s also a low-level activity to test your tolerance for non-monogamy. Remember what Brenna said earlier about salt? If you can’t handle seeing a dance floor make-out, you probably won’t be able to handle seeing their face full of someone else’s genitals.In fact, plenty of our fellow cruisers don’t even identify as swingers or non-monogamous. They just appreciate the opportunity to take a luxury vacation with non-judgmental, sex-positive people who hold space for them. We spent much of the day exploring the beautiful scenery with our friends, reaffirming that the bond between swingers extends well beyond the bedroom.

He was looking for an outlet, so we agreed that he could go out for paid sex services while I sought professional help from an excellent counsellor. Image: Julian Wong/RICE File Photo When Things Took a TurnNormalcy is a product of our culture and, therefore, can change drastically depending on where you are. I was eager to start, and John and I agreed we would reassess the situation if I realised I didn’t like it.

Warning: As you’d expect, this week’s diary features some explicit details about sex, so it’s definitely NSFW. Monday I said as long as he could get me showered and out the door in time for my second date with the muscle-bound guy from Thursday, then he was welcome to have me. While my partner relaxed by the pool getting to know a new lady friend, I ran into a man who asked to join me in my room for some playtime. We celebrated his birthday right away with a leg-shakingly good romp in bed. At this point, all the swingers knew it was his special day, and both of us were turned on just by the thought of what could happen. Taylor said that this has led to her divorce and sex educators say that she went against the agreement of their relationship.Got a question about sex that you're too embarrassed to ask? In the online sex misinformation crisis, getting accurate and reliable answers about sex is more difficult than ever before. Mashable is here to answer all your burning sex questions — from the weird and wonderful, to the graphic and gory. Think of us as your sexy agony aunts. I enjoyed both of their company over the next few hours, but afterwards, I was hardly able to stand. Brenna also hates to see newbies come from a place of scarcity. "Couples with kids and a lot of obligations think they need to get all of the swinging done on this one night they had free that month." In reality, plenty of swingers only attend a couple of events per year. ‘Cum’ from a place of abundance and don’t stress if you ‘only’ play together in front of an eager audience. Enjoy each other. This is about inviting others into what you two share, not just getting some permissible stranger. Biphobia and transphobia in the lifestyle How it impacted her relationship:“Sexual jealousy has never really been an issue for me, and as long as my needs are being met, I feel secure and aroused when I watch a partner enjoying someone else. I think one mistake some people make is assuming that swinging has only one meaning, but it’s something that is totally open to interpretation. Some of my most intimate, fulfilling encounters lately have been ‘soft swap’— meaning I have sex with my primary partner, and have foreplay only with our ‘guests.’” Some couples think that swinging may resolve other relationship issues, but it’s not always the case.’