Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life

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Don’t fight your thoughts. Who cares about your thoughts? Focus on your actions. You don’t have to feel like it to do it. That is the only way to happiness. In Unfu*k Yourself, Gary John Bishop inspired people to put his words into action to transform their fu*king lives. Through seven paradigm shifting assertions such as: “I am wired to win,” “I embrace the uncertainty” and “I expect nothing and accept everything,” Bishop helped millions of readers to move past their self-imposed limitations. I love this guy. I know it’s a bunch of recycled old world wisdom in a Scottish accent but it speaks to me and I like it This is one of the areas of “Unfu*k Yourself” that most spoke to me. I’ve talked about how during my mini-retirement I want to get outside of my comfort zone and explore new experiences. And largely I haven’t in the two months since I quit my job. You are your actions, not your thoughts - take a day to do what you normally don't. Eat at that restaurant, buy those pants, go to that service station, get a cup of coffee, talk to the person near."

The main point is not just about getting yourself in the right frame of mind, it’s about taking actions every day to meet your goals and not coming up with excuses like you didn’t sleep well the night before. He’s very big on not talking about what we’re going to . . . later. You have to start to talk like “I accept,” “I embrace,” “I assert.” There’s a big difference between “I am relentless” and “I’m going to be relentless.” Positive Self Talk: The human mind is in a constant state of internal conversation. The words you say to yourself have the potential to promote or slow down your willingness to act, and thus influence the direction of your life. You must speak positivity to yourself, and let it guide your heart. It’s not about ability to forgive, it’s about your willingness to forgive. You have to be willing to forgive Often, the thoughts filling your head are not ones of positivity, motivation and inspiration. Instead, they’re negative, crippling, and destructive. And it’s this negative self-talk that leads to procrastination, stress, and a fear of stepping out of your comfort zone. Seriously, all you have to do is sit down and answer some questions. On top of that that you have the motivational content sprinkled about that hypes you up right before the questions appear at the end of each section.I liked the way he talked about passion and that was a useful reminder and the main take away from the book. Gary Bishop's no nonsense approach works for me. There's nothing he says that I don't know deep down or haven't heard before. But he cuts to the chase and gives it to you straight. I don't mind the cursing, in fact, it helps me get to the point faster. This no-nonsense guide will help you shut up that hateful inner critic and get you feeling more positive about yourself and your life. Women’s Health Have you ever felt like a hamster on a wheel, furiously churning your way through life but somehow going nowhere? It seems like there’s a barrage of information surrounding us in our everyday lives with the keys to this thing or that thing, be it wealth, success, happiness or purpose. The truth is, most of it fails to capture what it truly takes to overcome our greatest barrier to a greater life…ourselves. What if everything you ever wanted resided in you like a well of potential, waiting to be expressed? Unfu*k Yourself is the handbook for the resigned and defeated, a manifesto for real life change and unleashing your own greatness. Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop – eBook Details Your purpose has to been greater than your own internal bull shit. Once your purpose is greater than your hang ups, than you can move forward

Blinkist encourages you to read more nonfiction books. The app contains cleverly written digests — called Blinks — where books are broken down into their main arguments.” Outgrowing your mindset and breaking the rules that you were taught to follow while growing up is one of the most challenging things you can do in your life. However, it can also prove to be the most rewarding thing you will do. Like most self help books Gary John Bishop isn't reinventing the wheel but to me most self help books aren't informing you of anything you didn't already know, they are simply reminding you with gusto and enthusiasm that you are responsible for your own life. No one is going to help you get that better job, lose the weight, get your soul mate that is always in the end going to come down to you. It is all stuff we as human's are aware of at the bottom of our excuse ridden hearts, but sometimes you need that little reminder that it's time to make some actual change. Your expectation may have been to lose weight consistently, day-after-day, week-after-week. But when things didn’t go as planned, you got frustrated, disheartened, and possibly threw in the towel. Another fascinating aspect Bishop highlights: When we take on challenges, and when we push ourselves in new directions, it’s not only challenging for us – it also challenges those around us. Even those who love us.For example, going to the gym 3 times a week might be an important part of building the body you’re striving for. So consistently telling yourself “I can’t do it…” or “I’m not a gym-goer…” is likely to leave you rooted at square one (or on the couch!). You can either indulge your shit and repeat it until you die, or finally change your life. There's no in between" I loved it as it’s not like reading same type of motivational book. It’s like u get a punch line and straight to point. Loved this Scottish writer: Not the worst self-help book I’ve read, but not the most memorable either. I do have to say though that Gary John Bishop was very motivating – I liked the 7 personal assertions he broke each chapter down by:

We want changes right away, but we have to think realistically. If you want to get in better shape, is working out for half an hour a day really impossible? Whatever you refuse to forgive, keeps living in you as long as you keep holding to it and affects negatively your life. Forgiveness doesn’t mean letting people of the hook for their bullshit or being used, duped, taken advantage of. Forgiving someone doesn’t make you better than they are (that’s self righteousness). Forgiveness is seeing pass what a person did, don’t compare what you would have done but try to understand where they are coming from given their life and circumstances. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you are allowing same behaviour from the past from you or them. It can also include taking a stand of what you are willing to allow or not in your life. You can forgive and let go (remove them from your life) and do without any cynicism, resentment or lost of who you are. We all have our unique paths in life. The principles behind what is “correct’’ we’ve been taught since birth. These work great for those who are risk-averse. But what if you are not that person? Will these truths do more bad than good? Therefore, we need to learn how to train it for our benefit and break the cycle of repetitive thoughts and actions that keep us still and interfere with our growth. For that, Unfu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop teaches us how to create a comprehensive, practical plan to follow and adopt a winning mentality.Unfu*k Yourself” offers seven power statements to shift your perspective and force you to take action with purpose and drive. It offers a framework for transforming your life by encouraging actions that lead to discomfort, which is where Bishop says all progress is found. When you find your mind making these dismissive, self-limiting thoughts, it’s best to stop, change that pattern and say something like “Well, I can try!” When you say this, you open up your mind to the possibility, and start looking for ways to put in your best effort. 2. Stop Playing the Blame Game As a psychologist I often like to read self-help books my clients might read or my students might encounter. Sometimes I use them to drive home points or offer them as resources. I like to see what is out there. This book is actually pretty good at illustrating basic Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and REBT principles. For that, I would have given it a solid 4 stars! I think it drives home the very very very basics of CBT in a "average citizen" sort of way. However, if you have ANY exposure to therapy or CBT or self help then this book is probably nothing new. Additionally, it really doesn't offer any actionable steps or advice on what to do. It tended to be very general. Minus a few stars for that--I could see that being VERY frustrating for people. I got the most out of the relationship with others chapter, where the author advises that most of our relationship problems are based on not accepting people as who they are and forcing our own unfair expectations on them.

If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation—in other words, if you’re will to put up with your situation—then whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen. You have to ask yourself: Am I willing?”

At one point or another, we’ve all been guilty of getting too in-our-heads about something…. A no-frills look at overcoming anxiety… guides you through getting out of negative self-talk and into your best self.”— Refinery 29 Planning and setting objectives is a healthy approach to your life and it can prove to be very rewarding in time. However, clinging to those expectations and linking your sense of purpose to them is not. Expectations can distract us from more important things, such as opportunities to seize or a more positive outcome.