The Joy of Being Selfish: Why you need boundaries and how to set them

Product Information

Say NO to demanding friends. NO to parties you don't want to go to. NO to being tied to your phone. NO to unwanted hugs. This is an empowering, essential and playful guide to setting boundaries, for readers aged 9+. Is your friendship group constantly filled with drama? * Does your boss make constant unreasonable demands? * Do you find yourself saying 'yes' to people and events to keep those around you happy? * Do you often find yourself emotionally exhausted and physically drained? The part of the book I enjoyed the most was where the author listed simple replies to comments clearly meant to manipulate, guilt-trip or otherwise derail attempts at boundary-setting. I've copied down a couple for future use. I would say I look forward to giving them a whirl, but that would be equal to saying I look forward to someone crossing my boundaries.

Michelle is the queen of boundaries. We all need this book, now more than ever! Whether it’s work, romance, family or friends, Michelle will guide you through the process of setting boundaries. By the end of the book you’ll be proud to call yourself selfish because it will mean you are showing yourself the love and respect you deserve.” My own life experience (I'm twice her age) has shown me how people with too many boundaries eventually come crashing off their self-appointed pedestals with a bump, and end up needing to do even more healing as a result. Canadian flautist Ron Korb has been joined by Cuban pianist Hilario Duran to create a catchy, up-beat Jazz Fusion sound in Havana Sun, as only […] It's time to discover the joy being selfish. Putting the needs of everyone around us before our own is ingrained in us from a young age. Often, this leaves us with little time or energy for much-needed self-love and self-care, and to figure out who we truly are and what we really want. Looking at the list to be considered, we find many questions with a true or false answer. If you answer true to such things as, “I find it hard to voice my opinions when I disagree with someone,” this book is definitely for you. The difference between building a wall and a boundary is quite explicit, and advice is given on how to build this. What Elman wants you to avoid is, “Closing you off to the world, keeping everyone out, and decisions made from fear or anger.”In a spellbinding new masterpiece by #1 New York Times bestselling author Daniel Silva, Gabriel Allon undertakes a high-stakes search for the greatest art forger who ever lived Dominic Cummings' face is a picture as names he called ministers are read out Build a relationship with your body

Growing up is a minefield. You have to navigate new friendships, new teachers, your body changes, people are kissing, there never seems to be enough hours in the day ... and why is everyone suddenly posting their breakfast on social media?! Author and life coach, Michelle Elman, is here to show you how to say no and take control. 'No' makes you strong. 'No' makes you confident. 'No' makes you realise your worth and what you deserve. Every once in a while an author comes along and you want to tell everyone you know to read their books. Michelle is one of those authors. Her work in the mental health space, particularly with boundaries and relationships is so important. Don’t walk to get Michelle’s new book, run!” After the stresses of the pandemic, many people crave self-care, but are still reluctant to prioritize their own needs, said Michelle Elman, author of the new book, “ The Joy of Being Selfish: Why you need boundaries and how to set them.”Silence is another useful tool: You don’t have to participate in a conversation that makes you feel uncomfortable. People do notice, Elman said. If they don’t and insist on engaging you in an uncomfortable topic, she suggested saying, “Can we change the conversation to something more interesting?” Expect life to change There's an important difference, of course, between responding appropriately to bad treatment, and demanding the world bends to your every entitled whim -- but the lines in this seem to get somewhat blurred. Look, I get it that you've been a pushover in the past, and yes it may be useful to work on how you deal with people and become a bit more selective -- but in the words of John Donne, 'No Man is an Island' [or woman] and as such it isn't all about you or how your self-absorbed feelings have been hurt. Whilst the information in this book is interesting. Michelle is missing a little age (which will come to her) and another fundamental part - CHILDREN.

One Trusted Adult: How to Build Strong Connections & Healthy Boundaries with Young People Brooklyn L. Raney

Michelle Elman

Michelle Elman, writing simply and explicitly, has outlined clearly how to go about setting your own boundaries and personalising the process. Despite its challenging title, The Joy Of Being Selfish is an important book for those who want to reflect on their own position in life. Author Of course it should not matter if people like you or not, and being liked should not be a motivation for your behaviour -- but when your friends start to turn away from you, then you may need to question why that is. Nekaterim se bo ta priročnik mogoče zdel nič posebnega, sama sem pa dobila kar nekaj koristnih napotkov, kako postaviti osebne meje. Ker znam biti preveč prijazna, me to včasih kar močno tepe. Poleg tega sem imela vse od najstniških let dolgo časa bolj slabo samopodobo. Mene ponavadi opisujejo kot res prijazno osebo. Ampak veste, kako je biti stalno prijazen? Naporno je, izčrpa te in nekateri to znajo izkoriščati v svoje namene. Kar nekajkrat sem se opekla, preden sem dojela, da moram biti najprej prijazna sama s sabo, potem pa se odločim po svoji vesti, kako bom delovala v določenem trenutku. Imam svoje napake, ampak z leti počasi spoznavam, kaj je boljše zame. Seveda pa je treba jemati zdravo osebno mejo drugače kot pa postavljanje zidu okoli sebe. The book is written in an engaging, direct style that is easy to follow. Some parts and examples have a nice self-deprecating flair to it. On top of that, the book offers various exercises one can do to improve boundaries. Although Elman doesn't explain them in any detail, she hints at/uses a number of models common in other self-help books (Eisenhower's importance/urgency matrix, stimulus-response and shifting paradigms)