What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

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Fidgeting is any repetitive movement that we do when feeling uncomfortable. Common fidgeting behaviors include: The wrong idea that many have is that any sign of nervousness is a sign of lying. It’s not. People can be nervous independently of lies.

During discomfort, the limbic brain takes over, and a person’s face can conversely either flush or lighten in color.

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People lean toward each other when there is high comfort and agreement. This mirroring or isopraxis starts when we are babies. Non-verbal cues are a lot more reliable than words, because we’re trained to adjust speech (and even truth) to the situation from a young age, but can’t get rid of our deeply rooted, ancient physical behaviors. Lesson 2: There’s one more option you can take next to fight or flight. Navarro, Joe (2005) Hunting Terrorists: A Look at The Psychopathology of Terror. Charles C. Thomas, Springfield, Illinois. ISBN 0-398-07594-8.

We lie with our faces because that’s what we’ve been taught to do since early childhood. “Don’t make that face,” our parents growl when we honestly react to the food placed in front of us. “At least look happy when your cousins stop by,” they instruct, and you learn to force a smile. Our parents—and society—are, in essence, telling us to hide, deceive, and lie with our faces for the sake of social harmony. So it is no surprise that we tend to get pretty good at it, so good, in fact, that when we put on a happy face at a family gathering, we might look as if we love our in-laws when, in reality, we are fantasizing about how to hasten their departure.”

When we are uncomfortable with those around us, we tend to distance ourselves from them. This is especially true of individuals trying to deceive us.

Joe says there’s another part of this response, the “freeze” reaction, and it actually comes before flight, with actually fighting being our last resort.Lots of animals freeze in place when a predator is about to sneak around the corner, because movement attracts attention. By remaining silent, the predator might pass by and let them go unnoticed. A könyv nem csak a téma miatt tetszett, hanem azért is, mert Navarro eloszlat olyan tévhiteket, mint pédául hogy a félrenézés a csalás vagy a hazugság jele, amik annyira bevették magukat a közhiedelembe is, hogy én például akarva-akaratlanul próbálok ügyelni, hogy ne nézzek oldalra, holott ez csupán annak a leképezése, hogy a beszélő próbálja összeszedni a gondolatait (főleg mondjuk egy stresszes szituációban, mint egy állásinterjú vagy egy vizsga). In 2009, Navarro partnered with Nightingale-Conant, the world's largest producer of self-improvement audio programs, and produced The Power of Body Language. [17] He also launched an online course in 2009 to share his knowledge with others on how to observe, decode, and utilize nonverbals in their personal and professional life. This was undertaken for the benefit of those who could not travel to attend his seminars. But there are also some very interesting things to be found. There were several instances where I thought to myself: "Yeah, that makes sense, I can see that." And there were even some things that I would probably never have thought of - but while the former was a breath of fresh air every now and again, the latter was an absolute rarity.The neocortex can override the limbic system in some situations. For example, if you see a snake and your limbic system triggers a fear response, your neocortex can stop you from running away or screaming. Arm withdrawal: When we are confident our arms tend to move conspicuously and stay to the side; when we feel threatened, our arms will move closer to our body or will cover our body. As a general rule, the meek will pull their arms in, the aggressors will spread their arms out. Offensive hand gestures: Very interestingly, there are more learned hand gestures than most other body language signals we’ve seen. Hence, it’s easy to offend some foreign cultures with hand gestures. Joe Navarro hence advises avoiding hand gestures in a foreign culture until you learn a bit about what they mean. Often when people say something they shouldn’t have, people nearby will touch or scratch their closed eyelid—this is a good indicator that something improper was uttered. You see this often with politicians when one misspeaks and another catches it.”

If the editor had cut out most of the redundant passages and "foreshadowing". The introduction seemed so long, I kept wondering if the book would ever get to the point instead of promising to do this and that. There were also quite a few examples that were repeated (along with the accompanying pictures). That will raise tension and lets the nonverbal go awry. So you wanna know the biggest secret to a perfect lie? Don’t lie. And if you need to, believe in your lie. It’s not a lie if you believe it 😉 This zone is for interactions with close friends, family, and acquaintances. We usually allow people in this zone when we are shaking hands, talking, or standing close together. Social Zone We show discomfort when we do not like what is happening to us, when we do not like what we are seeing or hearing, or when we are compelled to talk about things we would prefer to keep hidden. We display discomfort first in our physiology, due to arousal of the limbic brain. Adornments and artifacts on the arms: Interestingly enough, Joe Navarro says that adornments and tattoos on the arm do communicate about us, and until tattoos will become fully acceptable he recommends avoiding them since surveys show people perceive people with tattoos as low status.However, when a person is making a passionate and assertive declaration such as, “You have to believe me, I did not kill her,” those hands should be face down Eye flash: The eyebrow flash, a non-verbal already talked about by another FBI agent in The Like Switch, happens when we raise our eyebrow for a split second, and it indicates a positive reaction. Synchrony is also important, however, in assessing for deception. Look for synchrony between what is being said verbally and nonverbally, between the circumstances of the moment and what the subject is saying, between events and emotions, and even synchrony of time and space. Research tells us liars tend to gesture less, touch less, and move their arms and legs less than honest people (Vrij, 2003, 65).”