Calm Parents, Happy Kids: The Secrets of Stress-free Parenting

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If you are a parent that is already conscious and mindful of your own thoughts and feelings then I think the practical tips will help a lot. Regulating my emotions as a parent and spending more time hugging and empathizing with my toddler, I can get on board there. One final note: if you are parent to a non-neurotypical child, this title only mentions you briefly.

I will undoubtedly refer to them both in times of need to help get me back on track as a calmer parent. One of the important notes here is that sometimes our child’s emotions are triggered by essential needs that go unmet. I'm really working on it and have made some fantastic leaps in calming myself, thanks, in large, to this book. We all want our grown children to flourish with the roots and wings we gave them, to look back on childhoods brimming with the love and laughter of parents who made them feel so good about themselves that anything seemed possible.

I also received some affirmation that raising a child in the Montessori style has long term benefits, even though the author never references Montessori at all. I do wish to parent with less yelling and I will likely implement some of the suggestions of the author, but I don't think I am causing irreparable harm to my child by some of the choices I make in parenting. Never ever punishing a child, even when they purposely do something to act out like throw a book at your face-- because the fault is not with the child's action, but with you for letting the connection between you diminish? In reality, she cites some very controversial and non-replicated studies and their interpretations as if they're fact.

I do gravitate towards the “peaceful parenting” philosophy, but there are other, much better books on the subject (Rest, Play, Grow is excellent, as well as Dan Siegel’s books). Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years. I want them growing up knowing they can talk to me about anything and everything, which although I had a loving childhood, I never had that relationship with my own mother.I went into this wanting some help to yell less in my interactions with my elementary schooler and it was some help with that, although despite the stated intention of the book, this is largely aimed at the parents of toddlers and preschoolers. Laura explains how bad behavior stems from emotions that need to be processed, and our kids need us to HELP them do that. Raising kids is tough work, so make sure you ask for help when you struggle emotionally (even if that involves just talking with a friend). One great example is if your kid were to say, look you in the eyes and throw food, you should drop what you're doing and play with them for 1-2 minutes because what they really need is connection with their parents and that will fix the problem.

If they stop crying but you think they still have things they need to unload, engage in some emotional poking and prodding to keep them crying. Dr Laura Markham earned her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless families.While much of the book deals with behaviors that drive parents batty, Markham also provides a framework for approaching parenting as coaching. Laura Markham brilliantly applies her respectful, attuned, limit-setting approach to sibling dynamics. I will definitely be taking on some of its tenets: no shouting, lots of special time and connection to build a strong foundation for your child, responding to toddler tantrums with empathy and love instead of shouting back. Most parenting books focus on changing a child's behaviour, but the truth is that children only change when their relationship with their parents changes. By completing your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and authorise Audible to charge your designated card or any other card on file.

scenarios and scripts for how parents can turn conflict into opportunities to build skills, and turn parental dread into meaningful intervention. I would thoroughly recommend this book to any parent who would like to stay calmer in those very testing moments. What we need to do is to become coaches: teach our children socio-emotional skills, teach appropriate behaviour and teach them life skills.

There are dozens of similar examples in this book and if you put on heavy enough blinders you can nod along with her conclusions but otherwise you may find yourself reaching for advil to deal with idiocy.