Everything Is OK

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I appreciate Tung making something beautiful and comforting out of a painful mental health journey, but I found that it came at the cost of making something that feels real.

In fact, we’ve never had the time and money to share all of the good news we find — there's that much of it.If you could choose to be born at any time in human history, but you wouldn’t know where you’d be born, what your race would be, whether or not you’d be able-bodied, or how much money your family would have, you would absolutely choose the moment we’re living in today.

Debbie honestly portrays all that she felt during the dark days when depression took over – feelings of inadequacy, not wanting to get out of bed, not being able to speak for herself, imposter syndrome, social anxiety,… Outwardly, she still went, “Everything is ok/fine”, but inwardly, she was floundering. I'd recommend this for anyone who struggles with mental illness, regardless of where you're at in your journey, and I'm so happy I read it! Saying “it’s going to be okay” to someone in mourning implies that they will recover quickly from their sadness and go on with life.Familial relationships are sometimes tricky, and your family may go through a series of rough patches when they experience significant losses. Child rearing, job changes, health scares, and addiction are some of the reasons that your friend may feel stressed. The phrase does not have a specific origin or cultural significance; it is simply a common expression used in everyday conversations to show care and concern for others. There are a lot of great messages about recognizing the problem, seeking help, and keeping with it too. But then there are times when it feels like your own self is trying to sabotage you no matter what you do, even sabotaging your drive to do something about it.

Imagine hearing your family member say these words as you drift in and out of consciousness following an accident. This simple and beautiful statement can do so much to reassure your family members that whatever they are experiencing, they don’t have to do it by themselves. I thought that the constant switching between a seemingly linear story she was having and self contained thoughts, clearly after the work was done and other things, got in the way of the progression and started feeling a lot more self helpy and less this-is-my-story, which got progressively more annoying. I know this sounds really harsh, but at the end of the day this felt like the numerous essays I wrote in high school about my own struggles with anxiety and depression. From the bestselling author of Quiet Girl in a Noisy World comes a gently humorous and poignant collection of comics about anxiety and depression—because sometimes even the simple things like getting out of bed every day feel like an uphill battle.We know we have done little to define the right time when it would be okay to say, “It’s going to be okay. Instead, some people just want to be heard, and they feel better after having someone listen to their stories.

However, saying “it’s going to be okay” to someone who recently lost a family member implies that they won’t be affected by the loss. Someone smiling and cracking jokes can still be trying to desperately keep their head above water internally, for instance I find I’m usually at my most humorous and quickest with a good one-liner during my darkest times. Fred Rogers (aka Mister Rogers) once said, “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. Try to help your loved ones and friends find what cheers them up, especially during a tenuous time like this. If you are going through a tragic or stressful situation, you may feel reassured that at least you are not alone in your grief.Valued clients going through tragic situations or crises may appreciate your company even more if you offer support during their times of need. While I appreciate Tung sharing her deeply personal mental health journey and advice with all of us, this was… really repetitive, almost trite sounding at times, and kind of a slog. Anxiety and depression have been my constant companions most of my life, like permanent, unwelcome passengers in the metaphor car that is my life. Even though life may never be the same as the result of this diagnosis, death, or accident, you may have already been through life-changing events. Your ancestors may have gone through depressions, world wars, famines, or major accidents and survived to tell their stories.