Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step by Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship

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If your partner is starting to convince you through disrespectful words and actions that you’re a nut or a jerk or a loser or an idiot about parts of yourself that are important to you, then he’s starting to damage the way you see yourself and your entire sense of what you’re able to do. I feel comfortable saying that you’ll feel you’ve discovered what’s right for you if you choose to leave. This an excellent guide for people who are stuck thinking about leaving their relationship but haven’t been able to come to any conclusions.

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That said, I enjoyed this book and found myself recommending it to several others, regardless of their relationship status quo.If this suddenly gives you a strong sense that it’s all right for you to end your relationship, you’ll most likely feel you’ve discovered what’s best for you if you choose to leave. However, over time, your partner may have grown too comfortable, showed their true colours, stopped showing you how much they love you. Quick take: If you don’t know whether you want to stay even if nothing were wrong, then you don’t want to stay. it starts you out with a scenario, followed by question(s) which build upon each other and lead up to your answer: stay or go. If you stop caring whether your partner finds out or not, then an affair is a sign of your having taken practical steps to set in motion some course of action or lifestyle that definitely excludes your partner.

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If you’ve actually made a concrete commitment to pursue a course of action or lifestyle that excludes your partner, then on some level you’ve already decided that you’ll be happier if you leave your relationship. All in all I found it to be eminently pragmatic, far more than most relationship books I’ve read over the years, which I found helpful. Unfortunately, this book rests on the premise that people are inflexible, cannot observe themselves and that their mates cannot change themselves, and therefore, whatever you've got is as good as it will get. Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. If you feel that your partner shows support for and interest in the things you’re trying to do that are important to you, and does so in ways that are substantial and concrete and that make a real difference to you, then most people who’ve been in your situation have said that they’re in a relationship that’s too good to leave.Dudé un par de veces de si agregar este libro a mi "estantería" digital del libros pública, y más aún dudé si debía compartir mis impresiones abiertamente. Does your partner bombard you with difficulties when you try to get even the littlest thing you want; and is it your experience that almost any need you have gets obliterated; and if you ever do get what you want, is getting it such an ordeal that you don’t feel it was worth all the effort? Al final decidí compartirlo porque hay dos temas de los que casi nadie habla, pero que a todos nos causan problemas en algún momento u otro de nuestra vida adulta. Even if your partner does provide things, if what he provides are things you don’t particularly respect him for, he’s not a respected resource for you.

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This is a time to be brutally honest: do you have the characteristics that’ll make it relatively easy to find dates? Al compartir mis impresiones estoy decidiendo hacerle saber a quien esté pasando por alguna dificultad con su pareja: a todos nos sucede, no todos sabemos cómo solucionarlo, no estás solo/a y es mejor que te tomes acciones claras para solucionar tus problems. Does it seem to you that your partner generally and consistently blocks your attempts to bring up topics or raise questions, particularly about things you care about?Whatever was done that caused hurt and betrayal, do you have the sense that the pain and damage have lessened with time? If you’re trying to decide if you’ll be happiest if you stay or leave, you can’t look only at what’s going on in your relationship. As you think about your partner’s problem that makes your relationship too bad to stay in, does he acknowledge it and is he willing to do something about it and is he able to change? In spite of admirable qualities, and stepping back from any temporary anger or disappointment, do you genuinely like your partner, and does your partner seem to like you? If there’s something your partner does that makes your relationship too bad to stay in, and he acknowledges it, but he’s, in fact, unwilling to do anything about it, and if his unwillingness has been clear for at least six months, you’ll be happier if you leave.