An improperly fitted belt is likely to pinch, rub or chafe; it may even harmfully compress his genitals. Arousal and frustration are not the same things; a chastened male might be unbelievably aroused while still accepting – and desiring – the loving authority of his keyholder. Tell him that he’s not getting his turn tonight, that the thought of him trying to get to sleep while still unsatisfied (not to mention utterly frustrated) is a real turn-on for you, that you want to save him for tomorrow morning… Tomorrow morning, make it worth his while again – and this time, think twice before leaving him frustrated (unless you’re very sure it’s the right thing to do). If you can manage this, you will have harnessed his libido, which is the most primal of the forces that drive him. You’ll have done a bunch of stuff you didn’t really want to do, to give him an experience that he might have enjoyed at the time, but that wasn’t what he really needed.

In this way, you can ensure that the key will always be in your physical control, so that your man has no chance to sneak it away for some quiet self-relief. This book is about male chastity within a long-term relationship between a woman and a man who know and trust one another. If the device hurts him then something is wrong; you don’t want him enduring something that might end up damage him.Cruel as this practice might sound, I understand it provides a uniquely mind-blowing (not to mention mind-bending) experience for a submissive man.

You will be able to ramp him up and bring him back down, tease him and please him and delight him (but not necessarily to the extent he would like). And it’s not just a matter of money; receiving a device that doesn’t work as promised can be deeply disappointing, particularly as you and your man have surely been looking forward to its arrival. Having obliged him so far, you are under no further obligation to cater to his specific kinks – and if you choose to do this anyway, out of your love for him, then you should make it clear (deep down, he wants you to make it clear) that it’s your choice to do so, rather than his. The whole idea of male chastity is for him to sacrifice and serve, not for you to get pushed around.The other side of the coin is the non-submissive man, who might start feeling incredibly frustrated the minute he’s locked in chastity, even though he’s hardly had enough time to get horny.

This guide will make it easy for any woman to become a KeyHolder for her partner, or any other man, for that matter. Some of the more economical tube-type designs are built from half of a pair of police-type handcuffs. Also take care with cycling, horseback riding or other activities where the device might lead to excessive compression, or where it could inhibit the needed freedom of movement or posture.Health, Hygiene and Safety By submitting to chastity, your man has voluntarily reduced his usual ability to take care of himself. A heterosexual relationship that includes enforced male chastity is, by definition, a manifestation of male submission and female dominance.