Yes! What I got from the letter (although it wasn’t specifically stated) was that the LW – for reasons unknown – thought the wife enjoyed or didn’t mind that the neighbour touched her. I’ve been married for more than 8 years and I can say I am happily married. We are both in our mid 30’s and my husband is supportive. He completely adores me! I also love him very much. I love being with him. Actually, we have that kind of relationship everybody “envies” and considers very balanced. I didn’t ask her how long he had his hand on her or if he had done this before; I suppose in hindsight I should have. We talked a bit more about it and chalked it up to alcohol, but in the past few days it’s been bothering me as I keep thinking about his hand on her and that he’s told her before that he thinks she’s hot. And this was the first time I’ve heard of it. I do think that each of us sees this through the rules of where we live. This husband needs to ask himself what is the norm where he lives. About a year ago Amanda got my husband's phone number somehow probably through common friends and started including him in group conversations with the three of us.

We have a great marriage and I’ve never had a reason to not trust my wife, but I’m having a hard time getting over this. I’m also reluctant to see him again as I’m not sure how I might react if we happen to be in a similar situation. The wife’s reaction doesn’t fit the narrative Wendy put forth. Maybe the wife didn’t pull away as she simply enjoys a little mild public flirtation. Some do. God knows I used to when I was younger and hotter. My wife and I have been married for 36 years, we are very happy together and have four grown-up children and six grandchildren. This doesn’t make her a bad person. Far from it in my book… Look — the idea that a grown women has to always be rescued from a public flirtation where all she had to do was slightly pull away isn’t exactly very empowering. Wow, so you see a man grope your wife’s butt at a party and rather than, I don’t know, ask your wife if she’s ok, confront the guy, or suggest leaving the party, you… do absolutely nothing. Until the next morning when you ask your wife about it and then start getting bothered — not because of how your wife might be feeling about all this, but because you feel threatened.It’s important to be honest with yourself and with her or you might be setting yourself up for heartache down the line. Most Read This question comes from curiosity. How many women on here would need their husband to specifically ask how she felt about the situation before she would tell him? I’m not married, but I know that if I told one of my friends that a random guy grabbed my butt, I don’t know that I’d go out of my way to say “that was disgusting” or “i feel upset.” I’d sort of figure that was obvious? My friend told a story about someone groping her, and she didn’t really specifically tell us it was a bad thing or that she didn’t like it, but we all understood that it wasn’t a happy story. I don’t know if husbands are different — I’d like to think that whoever I married would be enough on the same wavelength as me that if we were talking about a friend/neighbor touching my butt that he would think it was not good/gross without me telling him that. That’s not to say that I wouldn’t bring it up or comment on it, but just knowing how different I might respond to something than someone else reminds me that some people really do respond very differently than others. So, is it a little odd? Yes. Is it enough to assume she’s cheating (or whatever the LW assumes)? No. Postmortems were being carried out on Wednesday, West Midlands police said, as a cordon remained in place at both properties.

On the same day last August he resigned from a second company, ALS Trade, an IT wholesaler that he founded in March 2018. You say you’ve never had a reason to not trust your wife, implying that maybe now you do. Because some other man called her hot and grabbed her butt at a party. You’re having a hard time getting over this, not because your wife might feel objectified, uncomfortable, or even victimized, but because YOU don’t like that someone is moving in on your territory. You know, maybe this neighbor friend isn’t the only guy treating your wife with less respect than she deserves.

Just over a year ago, a lady moved in next door to us – she’s a widow aged 56. My wife and I have got along really well with her and are pleased to know her.