Strict Leather Padded Leather Locking Posture Collar

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Male icons of submission – an earlier commenter mentioned that males will often wear a ‘collar’ in a place that would not be normally visible under traditional social norms. This is true, there are other options available for males too which are more showy and in fact females have similar discreet options to men.

Play collar - These collars are very commonly worn during scenes and tend to have no significant meaning behind them. Play collars are typically dog collars, leather collars, or ribbon collars.

The information you receive should be about your condition, the alternatives available to you, and whether it carries risks as well as the benefits. What is important is that your consent is genuine or valid. That means: It signifies that the submissive partner is under the guidance and control of the dominant partner, and is usually worn for a short period before being replaced by a more permanent collar. They are worn to help establish rules and boundaries, and encourage obedience during a scene. These types of collars are not usually used for punishment but as a way to help reinforce and train the submissive as they learn. Bathing and showering are not permitted unless you are given special instruction from your consultant. Showering may be permitted but you must discuss this with your healthcare team. Different collars have different meanings. When you hear “collaring”, you tend to think of the ownership (mentioned below) but there are other ties when collars may be worn:

Personally, if I were in a 24/7 relationship, I would want something as subtle as humanly possible, so I would probably go the anklet route, but I hold my personal life very well… personal.Mostly it just named the 'band of slave steel'. But well the gorean word is pronounced and spelled in the way "ko-lar". Luther wrote in his scrolls that the gorean words "kajira" (slave girl) and "kan-lara" seem to indicate a preference for the sound of "k" in those words. I don’t think you have to worry that truly vanilla coworkers will figure out what an eternity collar means to you. But I think the people you need to think harder about are people like me, who are kink-aware but do not practice 24/7 themselves, and don’t want to have to think about it at work. I know some people who wear collars to work and it frankly makes me uncomfortable. (I don’t work with any of them, fortunately.) If your collar is plausibly-deniable to _those_ people, as something that any vanilla person could wear, then I think you’re totally fine and dandy. But a lot of stuff that would be plausibly deniable to a vanilla person would be a neon sign to me, and it would make me feel uncomfortable if I had to work closely with you. Now that is sayd, I must say that this is one of the best "Collar" storys I ever read - Enjoy it. And let me know if you also like it? As for the discussion of kink vs. gay relationships: As a not-straight kinky person, I feel pretty qualified to talk about this. (To clarify: I’m mostly asexual, but in romantic relationships and the rare sexual attraction I experience, I lean towards women. I’m a woman.) You can push these suggestions, but know that when you do, it becomes more likely someone will figure it out. You get to decide what the acceptable risk is for you personally.

The reasons for wearing a collar can be different for everyone but usually, a submissive partner agrees to wear a collar as a sign of their submission to their dominant partner. Dominants may also choose to wear a matching accessory, such as a key or even their own collar, to symbolise their ownership and commitment in a BDSM relationship to their partner. These collars can be exchanged between partners as part of a ceremony or simply exchanged as a gift.

General Advice and Consent

These can be made of metal or leather depending on what the person wants and are typically personalised with engravings or symbols that represent the relationship. The ownership collar signifies that the submissive is the property of the dominant and is not to be shared with others. These tend to be worn on a more permanent bases, even outside of the BDSM community. In my mind, a wedding ring has two purposes – 1) as a reminder/symbol to yourself of your commitment, and 2) to advertise to others that you are in that relationship. There are plenty of married couples that don’t have sex and sex isn’t the sole purpose of marriage, so I don’t think that argument holds up. So basically, for me, this conversation boils down to the fact that general society doesn’t regard what role you take in kink to be identity-bearing. Whether it should or not is quite a different question. Roughly he shut the collar, enclosing her lovely throat in the obdurate band of slave steel. He then, with his foot, spurned her to the floor." Slave Girl of Gor, p. 423 I, for example, am my partner’s kitty. And therefore I have a collar that he bought me. We’ve not gone to the full collaring yet but it’s something we’ve discussed and is likely in our future. Despite the fact that I am his pet and he is my owner, that relationship is not exclusive to the bedroom or even a full time role that we engage in. It’s an affectionate componant of our relationship and we both look after eachother in various ways. I am not there to serve him exclusively, and he is not there to serve me exclusively. The Kitty dynamic does mean that he spoils and pets me a lot though :) and being a cat he knows he has to looks after me just as I provide him pleasure and comfort. I love the cat element as, as you know – cats will leave if their owners don’t treat them well ;)