The New Bottoming Book

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Many, many people have sexual interests or practices that are in some way unusual. These people may enjoy bondage or spanking, erotic role-playing, dressing in special clothes that turn them on, or a host of other activities that place them outside the sexual mainstream. Your mechanic might have an alternative sexuality, or your librarian, or your kids' teacher, or your boss.... If someone you love has a sexual kink, or if you suspect that she may, and you want to know more about what that means to her and how you can deal with what it means to you, this book is for you. "When Someone You Love Is Kinky will do more for family values than anything the right wing ever dreamed up, because it lets people communicate and love and respect each other on the basis of who they really are. A wonderful contribution twoards a more sex-positive culture." - Dr. Carol Queen, author, Real Live Nude Girl "Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt, both wise and compassionate women, and both players in the world of kink, welcome the reader gently into that world and answer everything anyone might have wanted to ask but was really afraid to find out." - Isadora Alman, syndicated sex and relationship columnist If you want technique, there are dozens of excellent guides to knots, whips, ropes, sex toys, and everything else you can think of. Plus videos all over the Internet. I skipped some parts, mostly irrelevant Interludes and many parts of the ending which for some reason delved into spiritualism and dragged our old boy Jung into it. Why does S/M turn us on? How can we get better at it? How can we get our own needs for sex and support met? The Topping Book' answers these questions with anecdote-laden wisdom and with Fish's hot, funny portraits of lovably nasty tops. Illustrated.'I also had a p. intense reaction reading about D/S scenes replicating historical and ongoing oppressions but I don’t know enough to feel clear on where I stand. Don’t read the last couple chapters of appropriative new age spirituality junk. I thought Part 2 whilst extensive in the types of play ,I felt that the authors reminiscing of their conquests detracted from the actual "playing". The mention of "waxplay" had me sit up but then there was nothing about it(I will have to find a specialist book in this)and yet they did discuss the real "edgeplay" stuff in length. The section on Spiritualism in BDSM was quite interesting. For millennia, seekers have used physical and emotional extremes to achieve transcendence and exaltation. Today, many BDSM and leather practitioners are discovering the potential of SM practice to reach personal, interpersonal and spiritual goals. In Radical Ecstasy, bestselling BDSM/sexuality authors Easton and Hardy document their own journeys into the transcendent realm of kink. With their trademark frankness and humor, they share their own stories and philosophies. They also share techniques that have worked for them - techniques which combine tantric breathing, visualization and movement with a combined half-century of BDSM experience - to create states of transcendence during solo and partnered sexual and BDSM practice. As outrageously revolutionary as any sex book published in the last decade, Radical Ecstasy sets the stage for the new millennium in BDSM and sacred-sex practices - a "must" for any kink, tantra, pagan or sacred-sex practitioner. "Amazingly mindful exploration of that which cannot be easily put into words... the ecstatic experience from sex to sadomasochism, from trance to intuition to archetypes and spiritual awakening. Totally real and personal. Not a 'how to' but a nurturing 'can do' book." - Fakir Musafar, father of the modern primitive movement. "Progressive, deliciously honest, and HOT HOT HOT! Dossie and Janet ask difficult questions about the nature of sex, intimacy and ecstasy, then they actually manage to answer the questions, plus turn us on when they do. These two erotically gifted women have a way with words - and sex. They raise the bar on erotic writing and sex education to new heights. I'm in awe." - Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., prostitute/porn star turned sex guru/sexologist "Fascinating, heartfelt, honest, real stories of the heart/spirit/energy connection experienced in the passionate rituals of intimate consensual power play. These two courageous women write brilliantly of how erotic energies connect us with the big love we all seek from the source." - Cleo Dubois, educator, ritualist, video producer/star Infusing BDSM with spiritual weight is totally fine, but I don't think it belongs in a primer for newbies. I made a concerted effort to read this chapter without judgement, but when the authors mentioned a rigger friend of theirs who saw visions of "animal spirits" and received psychic messages while tying people up, my eyes started to roll involuntarily. The conclusion is also a bit up-its-own-ass, talking about Lucifer and illuminating the darkness within and stuff like that, and I mean, come on now. We're not monks, we're people who like to flog others for fun. But I suppose it's better to treat BDSM with too much reverence than not enough. People are attracted to playing in their shadows because it is very hot, intriguing, sexy. Please don’t think that we are robots doomed to reenact the dysfunctions of our childhoods over and over without release, but rather that we seek out opportunities to struggle with these conflicts so that we have a chance to make the story come out differently. If we let these desires drive us without our awareness, they may manifest in destructive ways."

The second section starts describing different "scenes", their 'rewards' and also tips on beginning and ending them Also included are sections on role play, with short subsections about bondage and submission. It has small sections on dressing, public play, sensation play and other thoughts when it comes to actual scenes. I feel these chapters are nice for a very fresh novice, but not necessary when someone has already been exploring somewhat. The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (formerly Lady Green) is a great beginner's guide to bottoming. According to the authors, this "new version" contains much of the original advice, like "connecting" and negotiation, but also has new and much-needed information. The authors stress the boundary between fantasy and reality, but as soon as you act out the fantasy, it becomes reality. The New Topping Book written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-11-07 with Self-Help categories. The Topping Book written by Dossie Easton and has been published by Greenery Press (CA) this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 1995 with Sadism categories.

The New Bottoming Book

But one of my favourite fictional characters used to be a sub in a BDSM relationship, so I took this as a motivation to read up on the subject, to get behind the psychology of it, hoping to get a better understanding. There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of relationships, etc. It's a very "free to be you and me as long as you're cool with everything" attitude. I think the reason they are so popular is because there really aren't very many good non-fiction books out there about these issues. When Someone You Love Is Kinky written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Psychology categories. Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2021-10-09 11:07:03 Associated-names Hardy, Janet W Boxid IA40257202 Camera USB PTP Class Camera Collection_set printdisabled External-identifier All in all, I find the book very basic in it's explaining what bottoming is and how to start on that path. Certainly recommended for the novice this book can help shed the nervousness and dispel the fantasy of play.

The fact is, you get sexual pleasure out of humiliating someone, by treating them badly. Just because they like that doesn't make your perversion better. It just shows there are equally misguided people that fit your needs. This was a fairly comprehensive beginners' guide. It was well written, lively, and approachable. All good things. If it has a strength, it is that the authors, Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, are very concerned with making sure that there is something useful for any new or would-be top who reads this book. The trade-off is that this is an extremely generalist book that is not going to be fully applicable to individual circumstances. This book sounded like one huge justification to act out your inner sadist, bully, villain, whatever harmful behaviour, without getting busted. Yes, submissive people consent to those actions. But does that change anything, really? I feel my initial idea that the desire for such practices is connected to mental damage or trauma was right. The New Bottoming Book written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-06-09 with Self-Help categories.

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Ocr tesseract 5.0.0-beta-20210815 Ocr_detected_lang en Ocr_detected_lang_conf 1.0000 Ocr_detected_script Latin Ocr_detected_script_conf 0.9781 Ocr_module_version 0.0.13 Ocr_parameters -l eng Old_pallet IA-WL-1200066 Openlibrary_edition The authors don't try to railroad the reader down one particular road; rather, they give you the tools to empower yourself and become confident enough to actually dive into play without excess worries or insecurities. This sort of comforting, non-judgemental attitude can be surprisingly rare in the BDSM community. It's super readable, very inclusive of different styles and intensities of play, and I think it's not only a good primer but a good refresher for more experienced players. preconceptions you may have about "submissives" and the BDSM Scene. So by all means its a good starting point. That issue is reinforced by constant recaps of writer's personal accounts of public play sessions, which are, frankly, of very little interest and importance and are brought up too often. The cosmic river flows through each of us, bearing nourishment, washing away what we no longer need, making us wet.

The New Topping Book is a great answer to the question many new tops have: "How do I actually do it?" This book isn't just a guide to resources and fundamentals of safety and communication, it walks you through creating a viable emotional and conceptual framework for your own domination.

There was also a lot missing in regards to navigating ethics, trauma, and joy for/with fat folks and disabled folks — for example, how might a person’s ability to engage in normative D/S actions like kneeling and spanking be different based on size or ability?, or how might the impact of shame and punishment around movement differently affect fat and/or disabled folks? I would have liked to see Janet and Dossie offer play alternatives for folks navigating these intersections, and provide a more sophisticated analysis of cultural and bodily barriers to BDSM. Kinktionary written by Ignixia Roberts and has been published by Independently Published this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2020-11-06 with categories. The Dominance Playbook written by Anton Fulmen and has been published by Greenery Press (CA) this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2019-04 with Psychology categories. Although they did not achieve 100% success, it was evident to me that the authors attempted to write this book in a manner that was part educational and entertaining. Instead of just stating facts, the authors give us glimpses into their personal lives by sharing stories of experiences they and others in the lifestyle have had. They don't sugarcoat things and tell it how it is!