If you're a kinky sex novice then bondage may sound like a bold start, but being tied up can involve anything from ropes and harnesses to simple silk scarves or even your dressing gown belt, so don't be afraid to experiment with a bit of light bondage - provided it's easy to escape. Something me and my boyfriend did before we started using a pegging sex toy is test out the area with my fingers and a butt plug. Make sure you’re both washed and clean before embarking on this adventure, I mentioned earlier on in this article on how a man could tidy up down there but to sum it up, my boyfriend mentioned squatting, washing everything with warm water, and maybe some manscaping. Some people also use pegging as a way to engage in sex that affirms their nonbinary or trans identity, which is vulnerable in its own right,” he adds.

I think it could be really fun to explore pegging together. Have you ever been interested in exploring the pleasure potential of your prostate?” For many people sexual fantasy offers a release. 'It's a way of stepping outside of our day-to-day lives and trying something different, or a little bit naughty, without all of the repercussions that might come with playing things out in real life,’ adds Oakes. I recently read an article about pegging, and I think it could be really hot to explore together. I’d love to send you the article and talk about it after. What do you think?”

The Best Curved Strap-On Dildo: Uberrime Astra Ruby

When you're ready to peg, you will need a strap-on dildo and harness. If you can, buy your first harness in real life rather than online so you can try it on. Some harnesses are strappy leather and sexy as hell, such as the Minx Harness from Aslan Leather. Others are more practical, such as the TomBoii Boxer Briefs, which are ultra comfy and can hold a dildo in place like no one's business. Go with whatever works for you and your partner's desires. That means that no matter the gender dynamics in your sexual partnerships, pegging is an option. Why Might Someone Want to Try Pegging?

In the absence of good lighting, your homemade romp might be something you'd rather was kept under wraps. You’re going to need a strap on harness, and an appropriate sized dildo that will fit in said harness. Be sure the harness fits comfortably, and stays put, without any materials that may chaff or irritate your skin. We get to be closer and understand each other better through pegging and the communication that it involves. Once your lubed up finger is fully inserted, have a feel around for the party gland located roughly a couple of inches inside the rectum towards the belly button. Dana (@danathehardway) is the lead copywriter for Lovers. She is passionate about writing, allyship, sex-positivity, and telling good jokes.

I also switched on the bullet vibrator which felt amazing against my pussy and made its way down the dildo So, what about the actual dildo? "For pegging, the really good dildos are the ones that are narrow in diameter that are fairly long," Powell tells Allure. It can be helpful to go shopping with your partner so you know what you both want. Some people prefer realistic dildos and others want something bright and colorful. No matter what, start small.