I don’t like getting spanked. I feel that it’s wrong and I want him to stop. I have tried to talk him out of doing it but he reminded me that we had both agreed to practice this lifestyle. We even signed a contract. Foolishly, I went along with it because I didn’t think that I would ever do anything to get spanked. I was wrong. So…I’ve been asked a variety of questions around the topic of getting domestic discipline spankings and so thought I’d respond to them all here.

sons ages 14 and 12. On vacation at motel in pool side room one afternoon my wife told our sons three times to get out of pool and to get ready for dinner. I kept them from exiting the pool but seeing that my wife was angryAfter years of knowing that she has this need, your wife/girlfriend/lover finally told you she wants to be spanked. I am guessing that at best you were surprised especially if you have been together twenty years or more. You may think it’s a passing whim. You may think it is just a random fantasy that has run through her mind; something best left as a fantasy not something she would like in real life. Plus you love this woman and you have no desire to hurt her. I know myself well enough to admit that the childishly impulsive and also mischievous side of my personality makes it necessary that I am disciplined by my husband and that he is in charge and sets the necessary boundaries gives me a freedom from responsibilities and worries I only insufficiently meet and it provides me with a feeling of basic safety that I can rely on his caring headship and can trust that he keeps and eye on me and keeps me in line. After messing up and acting stupidly or procrastinating too much etc. we were having a serious discussion almost verging on an argument. My wife said I was acting very immaturely and irresponsibly adding "Maybe a spanking for real will get your attention." One thing lead to another and she was moving forward with her idea. I got a real spanking that hurt enough to have me apologize sincerely and begin doing immediately what I'd promised her for months. He said from then on this is how he would handle me when I needed it and I again agreed saying okay. This type of relationship works with same sex couples. We are both females. I put my girlfriend over my knee when she gets out of line. My girlfriend is a big girl (5’11”) and I’m quite small (4’10”), but I insist on putting her over my knee as it adds to the humiliation. And, don’t let my petite size fool you. I give tough spankings that will change undesirable behaviors.

It is dreadfully painful every time it happens but I realise that I do not get spanked unless I deserve it and I also know that the spankings both as punishment and attitude adjustment are a very positive influence on my behaviour. The knowledge of a severe spanking being the sure consequence of misbehaviour is an in many cases effective deterrent and it seems that I remember better with my bottom than with head and often it is the bottom that warns me and makes me stop before I get out of line. Just opening the cupboard and see the strap hanging there makes me tremble and better remember to behave well.

Choose Display Mode

We were in the car, her sister was with us and I was spent from a long day of shopping with the two women. I wasn't doing a good job of hiding my attitude and got a couple of generic warnings or scolding from my wife. When I got mouthy and then rude my wife went off! When I was in my 20s I moved in with a women 12 years my senior. She was quite beautiful and sophisticated. I was living in her house and shortly aster moving in she began to discuss “rules of the house.” I was attracted to her and needed a place to stay so I listened and when she first said violations would be met with swift stern punishment. I felt a strange sense of titillation and I thought ok I will go along. She asked if I had been spanked by my mom growing up and when I said no, she said it showed. She lived in a duplex she shared with her aging mother and when she thought I hadn’t shown her mother the proper degree of respect she scolded me and listed a number of infractions that she deemed worthy of correction. htUVz5 https://www.quora.com/What-the-top-SEO-keywords-for-essay-you-know/answer/Alan-Smith-1772 write my essay So I am writing a letter to your men if they haven’t gotten it yet. Now I know we don’t live in a one size fits all world but from all I’ve felt and all I’ve read this will ring true for many of us.

I spank bill regularly. It began a few years ago at his birthday party. There were about a dozen people present. At the end of the party I and Ronnie remained to help Zoe clean up. Ronnie suggested he get a birthday spanking. I told him to bend over a desk. He thought we were kidding and did it. Before he realized it, we tied his wrists to the desk. Then I took his pants down as he pleaded no, not in front of your friends. Zoe gave me a bath brush and I began. I stopped and asked them to pull down his underwear. He begged and cried no, please no. I had him spread his legs and really beat his bare cheeks. He had to stay that way until we cleaned up and went home. Thank you Willian and I totally have come to agree. I think it's cute how almost over the top my husband's behavior is for the better if my Mother is around. He becomes the best husband in the world! I am 81 years old and still like to be spanked by my wife. I have punishment panties that I must wear all day with the actual spanking done in late afternoon. The anticipation is great. My ass hurt so bad after and when he was done, he held me and laid me down and told me he loved me and rubbed my ass for a while after. I also use it if I we’ve pre-planned a long shopping trip and may try it before leaving on vacation. Since he’s still feeling it somewhat, if a spanking is needed it shouldn’t have to be too long, loud or severe to reset him.I have read of poor "Rebellious" and think it is awful that she should have to submit to such indignities, not only from her husband but from her mother-in-law. I do not designate her as mother-in-law, because she cannot be one to her and spank her. "Mother" is a word too sacred to be used for one who would spank her daughter-in- law so unmercifully as the reading of her letter would portray. Poor "Rebellious", it is sad to think she has such a hard lot. I would practice on my husband a little of his own medicine and if he refused to let me, I would refuse to kneel and be spanked the next time he wished. And I would refuse with such a determined tone that he would not do it, or his mother either. It is disrgraceful to have such conduct going on in a domestic household. The idea, a woman kneeling on the floor to be spanked. I suppose she used a slipper or hairbrush to make it all the more degrading. How painful it must have been!

I assume he won’t hit me hard (although he does want to use a slipper too) and of course I can stop if I want to. In July, 1895 the letter's to the Editor in the New York Evening World moved away from the pro's and con's of spanking older girls to the spanking of wives by there husbands and mother-in-laws.The spanking itself doesn't turn me on, but watching him enjoy it, and knowing that I am giving him that pleasure turns me on. I just don't know what to do with it when it is not part of sex. — TFYH Today I wore a blouse that is a little low cut, I am ** and it showed some cleavage. I knew he wouldn’t like it unless he was with me, I could wear anything even tiny bikinis if he is with me, but I was out alone and he said You wore that? It shows all your **. Then he said come here, and I went to him knowing what he was going to do and he said turn around and I did and he spanked me hard, just one seat but it stung. Then he said You’re too ** and you’re ** are too big to go out like that without me, don’t do it again. I mouthed off and asked What if I do? He got angry and said then you will be in big trouble. I could really use your insight on the concept of maintenance spanking. In the last week or so, my husband has wanted to explore having a female-led relationship. So while he has always done the cooking, and is a great co-parent two our two children, he's now taking on the majority of the rest of the housework. I'm all in favor of this, as he hasn't always done half of the housework, and our new arrangement has allowed me to be a more present parent and pursue more creative pursuits. In addition to parenting, I am now managing our finances, which I don't mind doing. He has recently wanted to try " maintenance spanking" as a way to reinforce his submission. We've done spanking as a part of sex for awhile, both with my hand and with a flogger, and we enjoy other Dom/sub activities like pegging. But I honestly don't "get" the spanking thing apart from sex. When should it happen? When is it supposed to end? Why are we doing this? We tried last night and decided on a certain number of lashes. He asked afterward if I felt powerful and the answer was NO. I didn't get anything from this and I don't understand it. The whole thing felt very ceremonial and I am not sure what to do with that level of formality. Anything I can do to get in this headspace? Am I thinking about this wrong? Answer: Not at all. Again, this is consensual. I could tell her I don’t want to do it anymore but I have come to understand and appreciate its value…to me, to her, and to our relationship. There is so much trust and communication that is necessary when doing this kind of thing, that it has actually taken our love, trust, and intimacy to new levels. My wife wrote a great post about the benefits of having a spanking relationship with your husband, that highlights some great points regarding its ability to help eliminate tension between a couple.