One Last Gamble: Ally is an addict, a gambling addict to be precise, and her husband is at the end of his tether. When he takes her to play the slot machines one last time, she appears to have won but the 'prize' turns out to be a spanking by someone called the Punisher. Who could this man be? Surely her husband would never let a strange man spank her... or would he? Spanked for Spanking: Donna had spanked their daughter earlier that day but now she finds herself in trouble as her husband, Bill, decides that she spanked her too hard and intends to punish her in the same way. Donna is even more embarrassed when daughter, Jenny, comes into their bedroom as she is being paddled but Bill has little sympathy and intends to ensure his wife is thoroughly punished. My reason, is that I had a friend and co-worker, who had a wife had an affair, decided (probably subconsciously) to end the marriage, got drunk and hit my male co-worker, breaking his glasses and then tell him she was cheating on him and wanted a divorce. While your situation is much different, you might learn from what happened next to him.

I am made very uncomfortable by any sort of BDSM outside of sex play in the bedroom (where I think its fine). It is just too easy for play discipline to become real discipline, to become real abuse. It is not something I would be at all comfortable doing. Posters have talked about how to do it, being careful about doing it, whether it's okay to do it....... At the very bottom (ahem) it's manipulation, but not of the malicious sort. It's really, REALLY hard to come to terms with the fact that you want, need and are better off with spankings. I think a lot of spankos don't really care to know the why behind their desires. Better to turn it all over to your spouse to administer, better to make it part of a "dynamic."Romance | Western | Historical | Fantasy | Lesbian | Ageplay/Regression | School | Judicial | Domestic Discipline | Teen | M/F | F/F | F/M After telling her that since we were just starting, I would let it go for today, she kept pushing, "Why?" Why would you let it slide? She pushed until I eventually spanked her for her slip-up. It took much less this time, but she felt so much more. We hugged and kissed and finished having mutually satisfying sex. She said that she is okay but I'm still a mess. The Wrong Turn: On route to Vegas, Elise takes over the driving from her husband, Colin, but ignores the directions he has given her when she follows a road sign. They end up in the middle of nowhere and have to spend the night at a less than impressive hotel. Colin decides that a spanking is called for and proceeds to paddle his wife's bare bottom... but was it really her fault?

From time to time, we would use spanking as a stimulus, which would get my wife horny. This was all good until she started researching it. She read about Christian domestic discipline and thought it was not for us, but she became hornier when reading. Fast forward a few months, and we use play-full spanking in the bedroom during sex, and yet again she is very satisfied. She then tells me that she would like to try using spanking as a corrective measure for things that "SHE" feels she could improve. We scheduled a controlled night where I literally welted her behind and what I felt crossed the line. This made both of us horny, so we proceeded to have sex several times.Bathtub Spanking: Lily remembers to collect her husband's uniform from the cleaners and is happily soaking in a bath when he gets home. Randy is not happy though, when he discovers there is a stain on his uniform. Holding Lily responsible, he spanks his soaking wet wife with a bath brush.

Afternoon Delight... Well... Sorta: Janie is feeling horny so decides to skip work and instead spend the time pleasuring herself. Alan, her husband, catches her in the act and spanks her before the two have sex.

Always remember that 'dominant' and 'submissive' are titles only. There still needs to be communication, respect and trust. There are 'dominants' who wrongly think their word, their opinion, is law. That they can do what they like, whether their partner enjoys it. I am able to commit to and carry out the corrections we discuss together and I follow through. The expression "this will hurt me more than it hurts you" rings true. Afterwords she smiles and is in love, while I feel like an abusive husband.

Look, I think there are a million emotional reasons that spanking can be a positive in a relationship, but all skillfully administered spankings result in the same thing: a big ol' flood of chemicals into the blood stream. Chemicals that make you feel good. He grabbed her wrists and held her until she stopped hitting him. In the process he bruised her. She called the police. The police came and asked what happened. She told them that he had hurt her and showed them her red swollen arm. The police asked if it was true. He said that he had defended himself from her and that she hit him first and broke his glasses. He showed them the broken glasses. Sometimes we very honestly cannot meet the needs of a partner. It's then up to the partner to decide what to do. OP's wife might take her husband's "no" just fine, or it might cause problems. But if he's not up front about his level of willingness to explore this with her, then the risks to the marriage go up anyway. My husband figured this out before I did. Eventually he put a stop to the charade of a punishment dynamic and made me learn to ask for what I needed--be it absolution, a way to end out of control anxiety, a re-set on an unproductive day, or just favor when I'm jonesing for a fix.You are not alone in your mixed feelings towards your wife's desires, and your sexual reaction to them. As long as your actions remain safe and consensual, and as long as you are in constant, honest communication about them, this can be a very satisfying dynamic. But understand this about the physical discipline: SHE has the power right now. She is giving you the trust, she can take it away. I highly recommend you use a safe word--at least while you are exploring and establishing limits, etc. If you do embark on building a power exchange relationship with your wife, the issues of who has power can evolve. But that's a topic for an advanced class communication is really critical. Be sure you both understand how spanking is to be used. Be sure you both understand what other sorts of punishment and domination are OK and which are not. I asked if she was serious about using this as discipline, in which she made requests that she would be physically punished for certain things. Then, while I am at work, she sends me pictures, and I feel 50/50 aroused and ashamed. I come home and find that she then, not even thinking about it, "broke her rules". She was scared of the punishment, but we had agreed that there would be corrective action. I then find out that she masturbated several times that day, which I have no problem with. She went out with a friend for the night and is expecting correction when she gets home (including sex). I don't really know how I feel about this. Physical discipline is never a good replacement for communicating about problems, and it wont make the issues go away. It can be an effective CONSENSUAL tool if you both realize this. It sounds to me that your wife wants you to top her, and is also very turned on by the idea of being punished by you. That's common, in my experience. But until the two of you hash out what "discipline" looks like, you are going to have to take things slow and YOU are the one who is going to have to say NO to her if you feel AT ALL uncomfortable. (That's right: tops and Doms get safe words, too. They tend to call it "making rules" or "making the decisions" or "leading the relationship," but it's communicating boundaries and setting limits, nothing more, nothing less.)