In addition to personal goals, it’s helpful to build positive habits that bolster your ability to evolve. Some positive habits include: Reinventing yourself is not a standard process with a specific textbook or map. It’s important to view your own reinvention as a journey of self-discovery. Reinventing yourself is related to finding your ikigai, or your "reason for being." I had to become somebody completely different. At the time, I felt that Ashley didn’t deserve to be famous and successful because she wasn’t that special, but if I made Halsey, maybe she could be.” Halsey Try something new. Test the waters with a freelance job or a volunteer position. Take a chance on meeting someone who works in a field that interests you. Be curious.

You are much more powerful when you are calm than when you are screaming. Screaming is a sign of psychological defeat." p. 290 You may have a rough idea of how to create the life you want. But when was the last time you sat down and asked yourself what you want to achieve in concrete terms? Vulnerable Child:feels lonely, isolated, sad, misunderstood, unsupported, defective, deprived, overwhelmed, incompetent, doubts self, needy, helpless, hopeless, frightened, anxious, worried, victimised, worthless, unloved, unlovable, lost, directionless, fragile, weak, defeated, oppressed, powerless, left out, excluded, pessimistic. Reinvention can sound exciting. Yet the idea (and process) of reinventing yourself is daunting for many people. It can take a lot of work to change who you are as a person, how you think of yourself, and how others perceive you. But reinventing yourself can be truly empowering. Todd mentioned this phrase that I absolutely love: We never come out fully baked. The baking process is never done.A great example of how alter egos are used in real life can be seen with the famous pop musician Halsey. Halsey wasn’t actually born Halsey—her real name is Ashley Nicolette Frangipane. She came up with the public name Halsey to reinvent herself and become someone completely different. The way they present "life traps" is very parents/family oriented, not taking into account community, friends, the influence of future trauma. As with many books that split people into categories, it has the potential issue of splitting *all* people into categories, regardless of whether they fit there or not, through the simple omission of cases that don't fit into the theory. You HAVE to work on an undesirable project? —> Find out the skills required to master the project. —> Master those skills better than anyone else on your team. —> Become an expert and be indispensable! During the process of learning how to reinvent yourself, you will have to pull yourself away from your old comfort zones, habits, roles, and self-perceptions. This can be difficult and cause you to question your self-worth, so it’s important to engage in self-care to maintain a positive outlook and keep your mind and body healthy. Self-care can include:

On average, it takes about 66 days to reinvent yourself. In a fascinating 2009 study by health psychology researcher Phillippa Lally, 96 volunteers chose an eating, drinking, or activity behavior (like drinking a bottle of water with lunch or running 15 minutes before dinner) to change for the following 12 weeks.

The Reinvention Checklist

Schema Therapy recognises all aspects of neurophysiology in its approach. Neuroscience teaches us that we each have an inbuilt capacity for growth and healing (Siegel, Daniel J., 2011. “Mindsight: Transform Your Brain with the New Science of Kindness”). A positive, responsive and safe relationship produces chemicals and hormones, which enhance the regulation of emotions, stress and neural firing. The ability of the brain to change itself, coupled with the power of a safe therapeutic relationship, promises fulfillment. They change feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness or general unhappiness and link us to a path towards greater peace. No matter your circumstances or what you’re doing, you can create great change from the opportunities you’re given.